I hate being shy!
OK, so there is this guy that I really like, but I only know him from frequent chatting online. (not on a dating site btw but a forum we both happen to be members of - that is how we "met" if you will) But he is seriously amazing.
The problem is while I think there is an attraction there - as in, hey I would love to meet this girl and have sex - I don’t know if there is anything beyond that. (Does he have any sort of feelings for me or is it just a possible sexual encounter type of thing if/when we ever do meet?)
I am painfully shy, so haven’t worked up the courage to ask him. We haven’t even exchanged phone #’s - all of our conversations are done via IM - which to be honest I find just a tad odd given how it seems natural to want to speak with someone, hear their voice.
Again I am too shy to bring it up in fear of rejection or him going WTF? …he is definitely more assertive, so I guess I am expecting him to ask, but he hasn’t. This does not help with those lingering thoughts that I have.
I guess within the confines of how we communicate, does anyone have any suggestion as to how to get him to open up more/spill the beans on what he thinks of me without coming out and directly asking that? And also what is a clever way of getting his # without making it look like I am asking, if that makes sense?
(x-posted from another advice community - but at least this one doesn't moderate entries :) )
The problem is while I think there is an attraction there - as in, hey I would love to meet this girl and have sex - I don’t know if there is anything beyond that. (Does he have any sort of feelings for me or is it just a possible sexual encounter type of thing if/when we ever do meet?)
I am painfully shy, so haven’t worked up the courage to ask him. We haven’t even exchanged phone #’s - all of our conversations are done via IM - which to be honest I find just a tad odd given how it seems natural to want to speak with someone, hear their voice.
Again I am too shy to bring it up in fear of rejection or him going WTF? …he is definitely more assertive, so I guess I am expecting him to ask, but he hasn’t. This does not help with those lingering thoughts that I have.
I guess within the confines of how we communicate, does anyone have any suggestion as to how to get him to open up more/spill the beans on what he thinks of me without coming out and directly asking that? And also what is a clever way of getting his # without making it look like I am asking, if that makes sense?
(x-posted from another advice community - but at least this one doesn't moderate entries :) )