I'm thinking it's hermit season

[adventdragon]

So in a nutshell guys and friends alike have been for the most part disappointing.  People I thought I established solid friendships with have all but kicked me to the curb.  Out of sight out of mind?  Am I just not that interesting to spend time with?  Am I exuding some anti-friend vibes?  I don't know.  In the dating scene, guys have all been

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[esprix]

I can relate lately. How did I go from thriving circles of friends in Philadelphia and San Diego to a much smaller circle in Maryland (granted in the middle of nowhere in Maryland) to virtually NO friends since the split? It has become amazingly difficult for me to be social, and you know darn well I'm not exactly shy. A good part of it is living in the stix, but I can't deny that I've also been finding myself lately slowing losing the urge to make the effort, and as I've been doing so I'm noticing that, like you, I'm beginning to question why it always has to be me to be the one to make the effort and why others aren't doing much to keep me in their plans. I've already told two guys to take a hike because they weren't making any efforts to reciprocate. Even my mother's going throufh it now that she's all by herself (and I make an extra effort with her because I know how she feels).

Still this is a dangerous slippery slope for all of us. As I tell my mother, she has got to keep making the effort even when it feels like other people are insensitive, and so do I and so do you. If nothing else, go out and do the things YOU like to do, even if it's by yourself. Take risks and go try new things that might lead to new social connections (I've done so myself and have had some worthwhile results, but admittedly I really had to push myself to take the first steps, and being an hour and a half or more from a lot of those opportunities is a big obstacle to overcome).

So yeah, you're not alone.