Right? And then I feel a little crazy because I feel that way, but at the same time I'm thinking NO FUCK YOU GO AWAY! Especially if they're trying to be "sly" about it.
It's a boundaries violation. The same as when you're contentedly reading a book and someone just comes along and pushes the book up so they can see the title, without even asking. Or when I'm staring off into space, which means I'm THINKING GODDAMMIT, and people start waving their hands in front of my face and going "Whoooooo! YOO-HOO! COME BACK TO EARTH" and I'm like "I will fucking kill you!" because when people do that, everything I was thinking shatters into the aether like a dream and all my mental work is completely lost.
Like it never fucking occurs to them that maybe I'm perfectly fucking HAPPY staring into space lost in my own mind. Nooo, I have to adhere to their arbitrary standard, or PAY ATTENTION TO THEM ZOMG.
That is my fucking pet peeve. And they are always SURPRISED when I snarl at them and demand to know what the hell they think gives them the right.
Because, the truth is? There is NO good reason for it. There is no defense. And if you point that out, they will either realize it or settle on "Well, it looks weird" in which case I say "And who does it hurt? Nobody. Next time keep your hands to yourself. I am allowed to have some peace and quiet and thoughtfulness without an extremely rude person interrupting me."
when I'm spacing out people usually say the "it looks weird" thing or "I just wanted to make sure you were okay". Which is troubling, but I guess when people don't think much these days it might come off as odd.
Yeah, "I wanted to make sure you were okay" I will accept IF their interruption took the form of "Sonne, are you okay?" But I still usually respond with "Why wouldn't I be?" To which they invariably reply "You were staring into space," and I say, "That's called thinking, and it's a feature, not a bug." But "It looks weird?" Piss off, person who doesn't give a shit about my boundaries.
Exactly. To a 'T'. I cannot overemphasize how I am filled with confrontational hostility when someone leans over my shoulder.
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Like it never fucking occurs to them that maybe I'm perfectly fucking HAPPY staring into space lost in my own mind. Nooo, I have to adhere to their arbitrary standard, or PAY ATTENTION TO THEM ZOMG.
People. *hiss*
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Because, the truth is? There is NO good reason for it. There is no defense. And if you point that out, they will either realize it or settle on "Well, it looks weird" in which case I say "And who does it hurt? Nobody. Next time keep your hands to yourself. I am allowed to have some peace and quiet and thoughtfulness without an extremely rude person interrupting me."
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