Youger vs Older // Local vs International
What are your personal experiences with adopting toddlers (18ms-3yrs) and older children(3-10 years old)? My partner and I have decided that we really would like to bring a child into our house filled with a lot of love (and cereal). I don’t feel any sort of biological urge to bond with a newborn and I know there are many older kids who need homes to go to.
However, everyone I’ve talked to about this, whether its friends, peers, or co-workers, say adopting older kids is fraught with problems. “They’re permanently damaged.” “They won’t bond.” “ It won’t be worth it. “
I can’t believe that any child over 3 or 4 would automatically have some sort of deep rooted psychological problem that would turn them into a caped vigilante when they become older. What’s your personal experience tell you about these situations?
Is it harder to adopt American and/or Canadian children than International children? I’ve looked at some of the paperwork provided by my local government, and it prices Russian adoptions at approximately 50 thousand dollars, but Haitian adoptions at 15 thousand dollars. Is that normal? It sounds racist, but I can see where “supply and demand” come into play (which is also incredibly sad). What’s your personal experience with “local kids” versus international kids?
Any tips? We’re just at the beginning of this journal, but I hope we can wade through these muddy waters towards our goal without too much difficulty and stress.
However, everyone I’ve talked to about this, whether its friends, peers, or co-workers, say adopting older kids is fraught with problems. “They’re permanently damaged.” “They won’t bond.” “ It won’t be worth it. “
I can’t believe that any child over 3 or 4 would automatically have some sort of deep rooted psychological problem that would turn them into a caped vigilante when they become older. What’s your personal experience tell you about these situations?
Is it harder to adopt American and/or Canadian children than International children? I’ve looked at some of the paperwork provided by my local government, and it prices Russian adoptions at approximately 50 thousand dollars, but Haitian adoptions at 15 thousand dollars. Is that normal? It sounds racist, but I can see where “supply and demand” come into play (which is also incredibly sad). What’s your personal experience with “local kids” versus international kids?
Any tips? We’re just at the beginning of this journal, but I hope we can wade through these muddy waters towards our goal without too much difficulty and stress.