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anonymous
September 25 2008, 22:54:27 UTC
he's the only guy who's ever shown interest
Hey hey! I'm the same way. I DID THE EXACT SAME THING. Initially I freaked out, and freaking out made me even more anxious and made it blow up in proportion and cry listening to music about how I'm weird and all that stuff. And I still don't really do hugs and kisses and holding hands stuff, but that's just my personality. But next time you're alone, casually say you have to tell him something. In my situation I was honest and said, "I have a great time with you, and I appreciate how cool you are with the public stuff. But, you also got to know me as a sorta private person, so when I do those things, it feels... weird. Not a bad weird, a good weird, but it's still weird you know? I'm not shutting you out or anything, or saying I don't like you touching me, it's that I haven't ever been liked back before. Being openly liked is just going to take me a bit, because I'm not used to returning things like that back. What's your reaction?"
Most guys are really simple minded and probably would be like 'uh, what? where did this conversation come from?' I made it seem like it was his idea, which took a while lmao, but eventually I said I would work on my communication, responding to his touches when I didn't give a shit how intimate we were, not responding when I wasn't into it and then giving him a thank you about it later. He said he never thought about it when he did it, and I told him again I appreciate that. Again, the guy will probably be 'what' but once the conversation wraps up we went out to eat, hung out with friends and never talked about it again.
Hey hey! I'm the same way. I DID THE EXACT SAME THING. Initially I freaked out, and freaking out made me even more anxious and made it blow up in proportion and cry listening to music about how I'm weird and all that stuff. And I still don't really do hugs and kisses and holding hands stuff, but that's just my personality. But next time you're alone, casually say you have to tell him something. In my situation I was honest and said, "I have a great time with you, and I appreciate how cool you are with the public stuff. But, you also got to know me as a sorta private person, so when I do those things, it feels... weird. Not a bad weird, a good weird, but it's still weird you know? I'm not shutting you out or anything, or saying I don't like you touching me, it's that I haven't ever been liked back before. Being openly liked is just going to take me a bit, because I'm not used to returning things like that back. What's your reaction?"
Most guys are really simple minded and probably would be like 'uh, what? where did this conversation come from?' I made it seem like it was his idea, which took a while lmao, but eventually I said I would work on my communication, responding to his touches when I didn't give a shit how intimate we were, not responding when I wasn't into it and then giving him a thank you about it later. He said he never thought about it when he did it, and I told him again I appreciate that. Again, the guy will probably be 'what' but once the conversation wraps up we went out to eat, hung out with friends and never talked about it again.
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