Words fail me
By now, most everyone, who knows him, is aware of popfiend's wife Lisa's sudden death on Sunday, March 4th.
I know popfiend primarily through his posts on Livejournal. He is very much the same in person as he is online so I was very aware of how devoted he is to Lisa and likewise how she was to him. I think they got each other on a level that is rare in relationships and it was truly inspiring and beautiful. So when I did get the chance to meet Lisa last November at Philcon and see them interact, it was just as evident in person that they loved each other deeply as popfiend had posted about on a frequent if not daily basis. Their lives, their being, were/are so intertwined that it is nearly impossible for me to imagine one without the other. This is why the news of Lisa's passing is such a shock, "A punch to the gut" as grayhawkfh has so aptly put it. popfiend is someone who is a force for good on Livejournal and in life. Over the past few years that I have come to read his journal regularly, I have come to care for popfiend as for a dear friend. I am cycling through almost as many emotions about this as popfiend. Shock, anger, sadness, worrying about popfiend, are just a few. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to popfiend and all of Lisa's family. If there is anyway that I can be of any help, my friend, popfiend please do not hesitate to contact me.
Please also go over and read this entry on the same subject by cbpotts linked by elionwyr and this byelionwyr for a far more eloquent and accurate reaction than I am capable of relaying.
Here are a couple of quotes that came to mind when thinking about popfiend's loss.
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star-shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
-Mary Frye
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
I know popfiend primarily through his posts on Livejournal. He is very much the same in person as he is online so I was very aware of how devoted he is to Lisa and likewise how she was to him. I think they got each other on a level that is rare in relationships and it was truly inspiring and beautiful. So when I did get the chance to meet Lisa last November at Philcon and see them interact, it was just as evident in person that they loved each other deeply as popfiend had posted about on a frequent if not daily basis. Their lives, their being, were/are so intertwined that it is nearly impossible for me to imagine one without the other. This is why the news of Lisa's passing is such a shock, "A punch to the gut" as grayhawkfh has so aptly put it. popfiend is someone who is a force for good on Livejournal and in life. Over the past few years that I have come to read his journal regularly, I have come to care for popfiend as for a dear friend. I am cycling through almost as many emotions about this as popfiend. Shock, anger, sadness, worrying about popfiend, are just a few. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to popfiend and all of Lisa's family. If there is anyway that I can be of any help, my friend, popfiend please do not hesitate to contact me.
Please also go over and read this entry on the same subject by cbpotts linked by elionwyr and this byelionwyr for a far more eloquent and accurate reaction than I am capable of relaying.
Here are a couple of quotes that came to mind when thinking about popfiend's loss.
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star-shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
-Mary Frye
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu