A Little Parable About Addicterated
I come from a largish family. There are 6 of us including my parents. My parents are a bit fundamentalist if you also add in atheism. No I don't know how that works, but thats my parents.
Nevertheless, we were all taught to think for ourselves; even if that meant respectfully disagreeing with said parents. (I won't get into what the definition of respect is cause it sure is flexible in my parents view)
When you have that many siblings, there's a pretty simple rule of behavior. If you don't like the game that's being played, you go off by yourself and start a new game. And when you do that, you leave the blocks or balls or whatever there for the other people that are playing.
And in your new game, you make the rules. So if somebody comes to play what you are playing, now you get to make the rules of the game.
This prevents a lot of arguments and drama and somebody getting a pop in the mouth or worse. This also prevents everybody in their rooms crying.
I use this same model of behavior for most problem solving because I hate yelling and I hate people crying and I hate confrontation. I'd rather quietly do my own thing somewhere else.
In my family, the people who don't fit in...don't belong. That's just how it is, and I happen to be the don't fit in, don't belonger.
So, the point being, me doing my own thing and inviting people to do it with me is simply how I prefer to deal with stuff rather than having some big harangue where nobody is happy at the end and a lot of time, energy and wind has been wasted. End of story.
Nevertheless, we were all taught to think for ourselves; even if that meant respectfully disagreeing with said parents. (I won't get into what the definition of respect is cause it sure is flexible in my parents view)
When you have that many siblings, there's a pretty simple rule of behavior. If you don't like the game that's being played, you go off by yourself and start a new game. And when you do that, you leave the blocks or balls or whatever there for the other people that are playing.
And in your new game, you make the rules. So if somebody comes to play what you are playing, now you get to make the rules of the game.
This prevents a lot of arguments and drama and somebody getting a pop in the mouth or worse. This also prevents everybody in their rooms crying.
I use this same model of behavior for most problem solving because I hate yelling and I hate people crying and I hate confrontation. I'd rather quietly do my own thing somewhere else.
In my family, the people who don't fit in...don't belong. That's just how it is, and I happen to be the don't fit in, don't belonger.
So, the point being, me doing my own thing and inviting people to do it with me is simply how I prefer to deal with stuff rather than having some big harangue where nobody is happy at the end and a lot of time, energy and wind has been wasted. End of story.