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I am debating whether to meditate, blog, or read. should blogging be a confessional? Is blogging and meditating forms of release or are they mere distractions? Are some distractions better than others.
I want value from my relationships. Despite the co-dependency model, it feels good to give -- most of the time. You people know who you are. what does value mean? It means simply that they give something back in return.
This definition. while it is simple, does not begin to approach the truth. That the things I want from my friends aren’t things they can provide.
Is it possible then to use a cryptographic tree of helpers? People who can provide, and who are paid to provide. The answer is no: every professional trusts every other professional. In other words, a referral is merely an acknowledgement that someone with more education or more specialization may be able to address your “concern”. It is not an endorsement.
Is it true that neither friends, life coaches, psycotherapists can provide what I want or need? This is of course patently ridiculous. Friends exist in the wonderful realm of being adaptable; that is also what allows people to get easily hurt. When they adapt because they feel they must out of obligation , that is (or it seems to me to be) maladaptive.
Just asking whether I’m busy before asking for my help is a step in the right direction.
I want value from my relationships. Despite the co-dependency model, it feels good to give -- most of the time. You people know who you are. what does value mean? It means simply that they give something back in return.
This definition. while it is simple, does not begin to approach the truth. That the things I want from my friends aren’t things they can provide.
Is it possible then to use a cryptographic tree of helpers? People who can provide, and who are paid to provide. The answer is no: every professional trusts every other professional. In other words, a referral is merely an acknowledgement that someone with more education or more specialization may be able to address your “concern”. It is not an endorsement.
Is it true that neither friends, life coaches, psycotherapists can provide what I want or need? This is of course patently ridiculous. Friends exist in the wonderful realm of being adaptable; that is also what allows people to get easily hurt. When they adapt because they feel they must out of obligation , that is (or it seems to me to be) maladaptive.
Just asking whether I’m busy before asking for my help is a step in the right direction.