Plucking truths from other people's blogs.
I was stalking a new (attractive, single) friend's blog, and she'd written this:
"I realised that by the end of our relationship, I had completely altered all my criteria for guys to completely cater to him, even though he had many flaws and qualities that would have really deterred me in any other situation. But I was so desperate to try to make things work once I’d really opened myself up to him, that I was willing to look past it all."
And that ladies and gentlemen, is why I'm so insistent on having non-negotiable gates/requisites before even trying.
Because sometimes when you've been single too long, and you feel this imminent future of singlehood, once you're in the relationship, it's hard to remember what you objectively thought was important. It doesn't make them less important... it just means you're probably going to convince yourself things are okay. Until they're not. And then it all just falls to pieces.
Like the Avril Lavigne song.
"I realised that by the end of our relationship, I had completely altered all my criteria for guys to completely cater to him, even though he had many flaws and qualities that would have really deterred me in any other situation. But I was so desperate to try to make things work once I’d really opened myself up to him, that I was willing to look past it all."
And that ladies and gentlemen, is why I'm so insistent on having non-negotiable gates/requisites before even trying.
Because sometimes when you've been single too long, and you feel this imminent future of singlehood, once you're in the relationship, it's hard to remember what you objectively thought was important. It doesn't make them less important... it just means you're probably going to convince yourself things are okay. Until they're not. And then it all just falls to pieces.
Like the Avril Lavigne song.