alone time
in the middle of a very strange time in our relationship. i think over the winter we became too co-dependent and spent too much time together. yes, it was nice, spending so much time cuddling and talking on the couch. but i think we overdid it a little. the past couple days i've been in denver. i had to do a clinic day in the emergency department at denver health, which is a whoooole 'nother story. i made a mini-vacation out of it. my mom has reward points so i got two nights at a marriott in englewood fo free. i spent the night before and the night after my DH shift hanging out in denver, away from my man. it is very strange and hard to get used to, since we have spent so little time apart since we first... i don't know... got romantic, or whatever. pretty much since the first night we spent the night together, i think we've been apart a total of three or four nights. that's since the end of last may. well, we spent the last two apart, and then tonight he left to go on a camping trip to zion. he won't be back until monday. but on sunday i'm leaving to go back to canon city, so we actually won't see each other until thursday! the longest amount of time we've ever been apart. except before we met. ha. it is lonely and strange in this bed though. but it's good, in a way, too. i learned this years and years ago when i made this mistake and it turned everything sour. but it's so easy to forget when you're in the infatuation phase of a new relationship. apart time is important. friend time is important. family time is important. and especially, alone time, perhaps the most often overlooked, is important. such a high degree of co-dependency is not healthy in any relationship, but maybe especially a romantic one. it's not good to dote so much on your partner that you forget yourself. apart time allows both parties time to miss each other, and that makes getting back together so much sweeter.