Yay relationship status?
So Peter and I have a friend. He's a very good guy, but down on his luck on the reality side.
He's had a string of very, very clingy girlfriends. Trust issues, bad experiences, I don't know. It's all very foreign to me because Peter and I were each other's first, and our relationship development is fairly unique.
The friend commented that he found it odd, that we:
1. didn't do everything together all the time
2. were absolutely okay sitting in silence together
On point 1:
Peter and I have some of the same and some different hobbies.
Things we both enjoy:
video games. We played DOTA together while I was overseas, and we still did for a while, until recently. Lately I've started to pick up Terraria again.
LARP. We've met new people and developed new skills. It's a chance to travel and get away and live what the games do.
MTG. Magic is our "winter hobby", when it's too cold to LARP. I'm much more casual and prefer one-on-one games, while Peter enjoys building multi decks. Recently he and his sister have been going up against me and her husband for Two-Headed Dragon, with us wielding Slither decks.
Peter does that I don't enjoy: Warhammer 40k. I tried. I really did. And $50 and 20 minutes in I got disgusted and walk away. When friends come over, I'll set up the terrain for him and watch, but I'm usually playing on my DS or reading a book or something.
I do that Peter doesn't enjoy: shopping. I can spend hours in a mall just browsing. This drives Peter crazy, since he's goal-oriented, plus he has a bad foot and can't spend that much time just walking. I sometimes prefer to shop without him because it's less stressful than having to compensate for his impatience (or I'll ditch him at the bookstore).
I'd honestly find it a bit weird if we always did the same things together. We're both introverts, so there are times when we need to be alone and quiet.
On point 2:
There are times when he's watching something on Netflix and I don't care. Building weapons (I don't enjoy) and watching Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Breaking Bad, etc. And I like being near him and in the room, but I'll just entertain myself with my DS or book or something else, instead of whining about how we should be doing something together. If he's happy and I'm happy and we're together, that's better than he's less happy and I'm less happy and we're together.
Maybe it's a different relationship stage. When you don't see each other that often, you want to make the most out of your time together. We're at the point where we live in the same house, and we've been dating each other for eight years come next month, so I think we've worked out most of our trust and relationship issues.
He's had a string of very, very clingy girlfriends. Trust issues, bad experiences, I don't know. It's all very foreign to me because Peter and I were each other's first, and our relationship development is fairly unique.
The friend commented that he found it odd, that we:
1. didn't do everything together all the time
2. were absolutely okay sitting in silence together
On point 1:
Peter and I have some of the same and some different hobbies.
Things we both enjoy:
Peter does that I don't enjoy: Warhammer 40k. I tried. I really did. And $50 and 20 minutes in I got disgusted and walk away. When friends come over, I'll set up the terrain for him and watch, but I'm usually playing on my DS or reading a book or something.
I do that Peter doesn't enjoy: shopping. I can spend hours in a mall just browsing. This drives Peter crazy, since he's goal-oriented, plus he has a bad foot and can't spend that much time just walking. I sometimes prefer to shop without him because it's less stressful than having to compensate for his impatience (or I'll ditch him at the bookstore).
I'd honestly find it a bit weird if we always did the same things together. We're both introverts, so there are times when we need to be alone and quiet.
On point 2:
There are times when he's watching something on Netflix and I don't care. Building weapons (I don't enjoy) and watching Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Breaking Bad, etc. And I like being near him and in the room, but I'll just entertain myself with my DS or book or something else, instead of whining about how we should be doing something together. If he's happy and I'm happy and we're together, that's better than he's less happy and I'm less happy and we're together.
Maybe it's a different relationship stage. When you don't see each other that often, you want to make the most out of your time together. We're at the point where we live in the same house, and we've been dating each other for eight years come next month, so I think we've worked out most of our trust and relationship issues.