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[deepanalysis]

I just want to say, my name is Damian. I am 22 years old, a gay male from New York. I was molested by a cousin when I was very, very young and had a difficult time dealing with particularly the sexual fantasies that I had afterward. The fantasies that I had never really went away and I have come to terms with everything for the most part. I don't

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[jreilly4261]

I also was abused by an older cousin. It was very confusing. For the longest time I felt so guilty. He was caught with another boy and went to counseling and stuff. I had thought for the longest time that my mom and my aunt (his mom) knew what had happened with us (over the course of several years), but nobody ever talked to me about it. So it really felt like a dirty secret. It wasn't until I was about 28 that talked to my aunt and learned she didn't know anything about it. So I talked to my mom, thinking that maybe my aunt was having selective memory issues. She didn't know anything had happened either, but tried to assure me that she would have done something and talked to me if she knew. The first person I ever talked to about it was a counselor I'd been seeing for a year when I was 22. So I thought I was prepared to talk to my aunt and mom about it a few years later. That event was very disturbing, but now that it is out in the open, I feel a bit better, though I still have some guilty feelings about it and about fantasies from time to time.

I'm now almost 35, a bisexual man married to a woman. We have two wonderful little girls of whom I'm very protective.