June meltdown season

[absinthehearts]

It is June. June is meltdown season. June is when my daughter finally has to face up to the fact that she hasn't been keeping up on her out of class work for the entire term, there is no way to catch up at this point, and she is likely to lose a full semester of credits

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[auros]

Not that it exactly helps, but my parents -- who are wonderful people, and were such good parents in many ways that part of why I don't want to have kids myself is that I have trouble imagining living up to them -- have struggled with a lot of the same issues with my younger brother. They couldn't bear the thought that he'd get hurt by the diabetes, by being an irresponsible teenager, and so they hovered, and took care of every little thing for him, and he never developed any kind of coping skills or ability to take care of himself. (On top of that, he always had ADHD, and eventually developed much more severe mental illness -- probably paranoid schizophrenia. His extensive drug use certainly didn't help.) And of course, he still, even with all that, managed to put himself into a low- or high-blood sugar crisis a couple times, so it's not like their fear was unjustified. In each situation they were dealing with, it's hard to see what specifically they should, or even could, have done differently that would've made things any better... Given how things have turned out, I kind of wish he'd just died in his teens. Or never been born. I hate that I feel that way -- he used to be my little brother, and even if he was a brat, I loved him -- but he's just caused so much misery, at this point...

Sometimes bad things happen to good people, even when they make all the "right" choices, work hard, sacrifice... As Marcus Cole once said, "I used to think it was awful that life was so unfair. Then I thought, 'Wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair, and all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them?' So now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe."