Setting The Record Straight
It has been said by more than a few philosophers that friendship, like love, is unconditional. It places no limits or qualifications on anyone. In essence, true friendship is not based on whether or not you are doing everything your friend expects of you, or even what you do at all. It is based on how much care and concern you have for one another's welfare.
Having been put recently in the position of proving I still want to be a friend to someone, I can tell you that even with the best of intentions it is still possible for a friend to perceive lack of communication as not caring, even if the reasons for not being in closer contact are legitimate. The hurt that such a lack of contact produces is very real to the person on the receiving end of the loss of contact.
I have had to make a difficult decision about how best to prove that my intentions are sincere, and though I resent having to prove myself, I intend to do so anyway. Such is the value I place on this friendship.
My friend (she knows who she is) volunteered to help move me at months' end. I am presently making other arrangements so that she will know, beyond any doubt, that my reasons for attempting to resolve our dispute and mend whatever fences she feels need to be mended are not based on needing her help, but rather a genuine desire to not allow this friendship to die without a fight.
My lack of regular communication with her and others will be over as soon as I actually have a confirmed place to live. I only hope that the damage caused by my silence is not too extensive.
Having been put recently in the position of proving I still want to be a friend to someone, I can tell you that even with the best of intentions it is still possible for a friend to perceive lack of communication as not caring, even if the reasons for not being in closer contact are legitimate. The hurt that such a lack of contact produces is very real to the person on the receiving end of the loss of contact.
I have had to make a difficult decision about how best to prove that my intentions are sincere, and though I resent having to prove myself, I intend to do so anyway. Such is the value I place on this friendship.
My friend (she knows who she is) volunteered to help move me at months' end. I am presently making other arrangements so that she will know, beyond any doubt, that my reasons for attempting to resolve our dispute and mend whatever fences she feels need to be mended are not based on needing her help, but rather a genuine desire to not allow this friendship to die without a fight.
My lack of regular communication with her and others will be over as soon as I actually have a confirmed place to live. I only hope that the damage caused by my silence is not too extensive.