Not another lolita related post, Abbie.
I know, I know. . . .but this is one is important.
Please don't hate me, but I'm going to try this. . .
All my life since I was very young I've never fit in. I almost always hated mainstream fashion because it just too "flashy mc-sex-waton-EXPOSE-THIS-EXPOSE-THAT" plus I was always a hefty child (was? what do I mean was?) and still am, so I couldn't wear clothes like that, or act like that without appearing to be a fat-fool.
On top of that I've always always been attracted to the olden ideals of grace, manners, and fashions that covered the body but where still beautiful and elegant. I always escaped the vulgarity and harshness of my peers to fairy tale books, of princesses in glamorous castles, with kind manners and beautifully decorated ballrooms and sweet princes.
Or elegant ladies in chateaus with chivalrous gentlemen and romantic airs and long lasting waltzes. (;-; I got mocked so much for wanting to waltz at school dances instead of hiphop dance.) I had even told my mother that if I ever went to prom I wanted an Elizabethan dress or Rococo one instead of an instyle one.
(Hold on, I'm getting to the point here, I swear!)
So basically when I found lolita (and the lifestyle and ideals behind it) it was a huge light had been cast upon me. I saw the styles and I instantly went "Aha! So this is how I was ment to dress!" I felt really fullfilled. It was like I finally had all my feelings and daydreams taken from my head and sewn into clothes. I had special dresses just like all the princesses and royal ladies I would read about. I could finally wear on my outside the way I felt on the inside.
Also, I've always been a huge cultural fan of Japan, so that was just like icing on the glorious cake of destiny.
I could be happy and beautiful in these clothes,(the ones that fit anyway. XD) no matter how weird people thought I looked! And there were other people out there like me! Who didn't think wanting a dress to cover down to your knees or below was 'stupid' or 'old-fashioned' people who would rather go to tea parties and art museums than smoke pot or drink or go rave or whatever. (Even though I loove dance/techno music) I had found me. So I took it all to heart. I read all about it, I bought the clothes, I lived the lifestyle, I made many new friends and I was so, so happy.
So you see, lolita is like a part of me. So when I see people butcher it, or claim "They're just frilly clothes!" or when I see lolitas act so horrid and vulgar it's like they're butchering/belittling/ or cursing at me. And I know it's probably not good to be sensitive in that way but I can't help it. Lolita has just grown too near and dear to my heart for me to take it as "just clothes" or "just a joke". I mean I know each and every single lolita is as differen't as a snowflake and that's totally cool, it would be soo boring if we were all alike in every single aspect, but I don't see why we can't be differen't and be the same all at once.
This probably didn't make any sense and I don't know if you'll still want to be my friend anymore, but I just felt I had to explain why I take the things to heart as I do. ^^;
EDIT: Of course there is more to be an lifestyle loli than just having money to throw like water and wear beautiful clothing everyday. (I'll be the first to admit that I haven't access to as much funds as I really want.) It's about how you carry yourself and act around those around you. The energies you choose to attract and give off. It reflects in your choices of entertainment, hobbies, posture, non lolita dress, conversation and so on. I mean a lifestyle lolita can only own one dress but if she carries herself in the above mention ways people will always go "Hey, there's something special about this one. . ."
A princess can wear nothing but rags, but everyone will still know she is a princess by how she carries herself.
I really love all the wonderful lolitas I've met through this fashion, tian_shi , neku_niku , lolitallie , pour_me_coffee , fatalfille , chocomimi
And so, so many more. Each and every last one of you are all dear and special to me, so I hope this explanation doesn't cause in riffs in our friendships, but I just really thought you should know why I've been so anal about the community going ons as of late.
Okay! Quite time now!
Please don't hate me, but I'm going to try this. . .
All my life since I was very young I've never fit in. I almost always hated mainstream fashion because it just too "flashy mc-sex-waton-EXPOSE-THIS-EXPOSE-THAT" plus I was always a hefty child (was? what do I mean was?) and still am, so I couldn't wear clothes like that, or act like that without appearing to be a fat-fool.
On top of that I've always always been attracted to the olden ideals of grace, manners, and fashions that covered the body but where still beautiful and elegant. I always escaped the vulgarity and harshness of my peers to fairy tale books, of princesses in glamorous castles, with kind manners and beautifully decorated ballrooms and sweet princes.
Or elegant ladies in chateaus with chivalrous gentlemen and romantic airs and long lasting waltzes. (;-; I got mocked so much for wanting to waltz at school dances instead of hiphop dance.) I had even told my mother that if I ever went to prom I wanted an Elizabethan dress or Rococo one instead of an instyle one.
(Hold on, I'm getting to the point here, I swear!)
So basically when I found lolita (and the lifestyle and ideals behind it) it was a huge light had been cast upon me. I saw the styles and I instantly went "Aha! So this is how I was ment to dress!" I felt really fullfilled. It was like I finally had all my feelings and daydreams taken from my head and sewn into clothes. I had special dresses just like all the princesses and royal ladies I would read about. I could finally wear on my outside the way I felt on the inside.
Also, I've always been a huge cultural fan of Japan, so that was just like icing on the glorious cake of destiny.
I could be happy and beautiful in these clothes,(the ones that fit anyway. XD) no matter how weird people thought I looked! And there were other people out there like me! Who didn't think wanting a dress to cover down to your knees or below was 'stupid' or 'old-fashioned' people who would rather go to tea parties and art museums than smoke pot or drink or go rave or whatever. (Even though I loove dance/techno music) I had found me. So I took it all to heart. I read all about it, I bought the clothes, I lived the lifestyle, I made many new friends and I was so, so happy.
So you see, lolita is like a part of me. So when I see people butcher it, or claim "They're just frilly clothes!" or when I see lolitas act so horrid and vulgar it's like they're butchering/belittling/ or cursing at me. And I know it's probably not good to be sensitive in that way but I can't help it. Lolita has just grown too near and dear to my heart for me to take it as "just clothes" or "just a joke". I mean I know each and every single lolita is as differen't as a snowflake and that's totally cool, it would be soo boring if we were all alike in every single aspect, but I don't see why we can't be differen't and be the same all at once.
This probably didn't make any sense and I don't know if you'll still want to be my friend anymore, but I just felt I had to explain why I take the things to heart as I do. ^^;
EDIT: Of course there is more to be an lifestyle loli than just having money to throw like water and wear beautiful clothing everyday. (I'll be the first to admit that I haven't access to as much funds as I really want.) It's about how you carry yourself and act around those around you. The energies you choose to attract and give off. It reflects in your choices of entertainment, hobbies, posture, non lolita dress, conversation and so on. I mean a lifestyle lolita can only own one dress but if she carries herself in the above mention ways people will always go "Hey, there's something special about this one. . ."
A princess can wear nothing but rags, but everyone will still know she is a princess by how she carries herself.
I really love all the wonderful lolitas I've met through this fashion, tian_shi , neku_niku , lolitallie , pour_me_coffee , fatalfille , chocomimi
And so, so many more. Each and every last one of you are all dear and special to me, so I hope this explanation doesn't cause in riffs in our friendships, but I just really thought you should know why I've been so anal about the community going ons as of late.
Okay! Quite time now!