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How do I get an ex back?
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you might be asking yourself this same question if you've recently broken up with your girlfriend, or if your girlfriend recently broke up with you
The realization sets in, and you start to miss the partner you once had.
Sure, it wasn't perfect, but what relationship is it?
The fog of loneliness clouds your better judgment and suddenly you can only remember the good times...
Before you become a desperate ex-boyfriend, ask yourself the following questions.
1. Why did we break up?
If your relationship went sour, there is a reason (or many reasons). Sit down and think seriously about it.
Stop moping for five minutes and conjure up some of those bad times.
What happened? Why did it happen? What could you have done differently? What could she have done differently?
If you can't answer these questions, then what do you expect will change if you get her back?
Figure out why it didn't work the first time, and if it can be done differently. Otherwise, there is no point in even trying.
2. Why do I want her back?
Now that you've got the bad stuff down, start thinking about the good times.
Not about how good you feel around her, that's the cloud of loneliness talking again.
What do you actually like about her? What qualities make her the amazing girlfriend she is?
If you can't come up with five reasons why she's awesome, then don't bother getting her back.
You'll be better off with someone you appreciate as more than just "that other person in my life".
3. How was our relationship at the beginning?
Depending on how long you were together this can be a tough one. Think back to the very beginning, when you first met.
How did you behave? How did she behave? Were you more shy, or more aggressive?
Was she more flirty, or more innocent? To get her back you have to recreate the person you were at that time.
That's the person she fell for, and that's who she's going to fall for again.
Whether it's you or another guy, it's most likely going to go down in a similar way.
But you've got the inside track because you already did it once.
4. When did our relationship start to go downhill?
Okay, so you remember what it was like at the start, but people change. How did your personalities shift as time went on?
What were you like after 1 month? 6 months? Two years? Was the relationship rocky at the beginning?
When did it start to go downhill? Determine the peak, where both of you were on the same page and you felt untouchable.
Doves took flight and rain clouds parted when you were together.
Capture that moment in your mind, and embody it. You want to be that person again, and you want her to be that person again.
It won't happen overnight, but it will happen faster than it did the first time
Woo her with a few first dates, then show her you really are that person she once loved.
She will in turn return to the person she was at that moment.
5. What can I do differently this time?
This is the most critical question. You've already determined when and why the relationship went sour.
you know who she was and why she's worth it. You know the moment it all fell apart.
Now, what are you going to change? How are you going to take the relationship down a different path, to avoid it happening again?
Maybe by listening more, and trying to understand her point of view in an argument.
Maybe by listening more, and trying to understand her point of view in an argument.
If you made it through these five questions, congratulations, you're in a better position to decide on the future of your life with (or without) the other person.
Sometimes it just doesn't work out, but you can move forward knowing you gave it your best shot.
Either way, feel free to say and share with us your own relationship questions in the future, whatever they may be.
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