Standards.
I have been accused of having standards that were impossible to live up to. It isn't the first time. It's something I've dealt with - thought through and then accepted as partly true. Yes I have Standards. No they aren't incredibly high. Yes they are hard to live up to, but not impossible. I know plenty of people who live up to them .... every day. I didn't come up with these standards on my own. They were taught to me by my parents, friends, people I admire and some that I aspired to be like.
So I try to live by these standards knowing that they are difficult to live by - Heck I don't always live up to them. But I try. Because I strive to always be better. Everyone fails. There is no such thing as perfection 24 / 7 / 365. The trick is to keep trying. Which I do. Do I expect it from others... Perfection? NO. I expect people around me to Just to strive to be the best they can be. But in life there are some basic standards that everyone should live by. You can be as poor as a church mouse or rich as a New York Cheesecake, it's never about money. You just need to be somewhat responsible. Now, we all have times when we can't keep up with things and get overwhelmed. I've been in that boat a couple of times. And I have been ever so grateful for friends who have held out their hand to help me out of that boat. But to continually fill the boat up and expect everyone to bail me out well... that would be disrespectful. To the friends and family that took the time to give me that hand.
I try to learn from my mistakes. But if I lose a friend here or there because they believe I have high standards... Well, Where is the mistake to learn from? Should I lower my standards that I live by? Since I'm the only one I expect to live by them...No. Lord Chesterfield other than making a Fiiiiine cigarette said this:
Aim at perfection in everything, though in most things it is unattainable. However, they who aim at it, and persevere, will come much nearer to it than those whose laziness and despondency make them give it up as unattainable.
Lower the Basic Standards that everyone should live by? I don't think so. Those aren't mine to lower. Those standards are the basic things our parents taught us - things that their parents taught them: Cleanliness is next to Godliness. Leave things better than you found them. Don't put off till tomorrow what you can do today. Do onto others as you'd have done onto you. Idle hands are the workshop of the Devil. Be Honest - Don't lie. Waste not - Want not. Things like that. It isn't stuff they made up - it was handed down to them by their parents passed down from a larger entity. They are there to draw a line of respectability and responsibility. To Show you respect yourself and those who took the time and cared enough to teach you those standards. Those basic standards aren't mine to lower. My standards are built on those standards. Do I expect people to live in a completely organized spotless home? I don't live in one, I'm in awe of those who do... And I don't expect it from anyone. ... But to not even live by basic standards... That is disrespectful to your mother and her mother and well... to yourself.
If you live in a Shit-hole... it doesn't say anything about me, it says YOU think YOU deserve to live in a Shit-hole.
No one deserves that. Everyone deserves BETTER! And that is what I expect from people... strive to be better.
I wasn't always like this. I didn't have my own standards. But that was when I lived at home and I was expected to live up to my parents standards. But then I grew up, moved out and realized what those standards stood for and that I expected those same standards of myself...
So I try to live by these standards knowing that they are difficult to live by - Heck I don't always live up to them. But I try. Because I strive to always be better. Everyone fails. There is no such thing as perfection 24 / 7 / 365. The trick is to keep trying. Which I do. Do I expect it from others... Perfection? NO. I expect people around me to Just to strive to be the best they can be. But in life there are some basic standards that everyone should live by. You can be as poor as a church mouse or rich as a New York Cheesecake, it's never about money. You just need to be somewhat responsible. Now, we all have times when we can't keep up with things and get overwhelmed. I've been in that boat a couple of times. And I have been ever so grateful for friends who have held out their hand to help me out of that boat. But to continually fill the boat up and expect everyone to bail me out well... that would be disrespectful. To the friends and family that took the time to give me that hand.
I try to learn from my mistakes. But if I lose a friend here or there because they believe I have high standards... Well, Where is the mistake to learn from? Should I lower my standards that I live by? Since I'm the only one I expect to live by them...No. Lord Chesterfield other than making a Fiiiiine cigarette said this:
Aim at perfection in everything, though in most things it is unattainable. However, they who aim at it, and persevere, will come much nearer to it than those whose laziness and despondency make them give it up as unattainable.
Lower the Basic Standards that everyone should live by? I don't think so. Those aren't mine to lower. Those standards are the basic things our parents taught us - things that their parents taught them: Cleanliness is next to Godliness. Leave things better than you found them. Don't put off till tomorrow what you can do today. Do onto others as you'd have done onto you. Idle hands are the workshop of the Devil. Be Honest - Don't lie. Waste not - Want not. Things like that. It isn't stuff they made up - it was handed down to them by their parents passed down from a larger entity. They are there to draw a line of respectability and responsibility. To Show you respect yourself and those who took the time and cared enough to teach you those standards. Those basic standards aren't mine to lower. My standards are built on those standards. Do I expect people to live in a completely organized spotless home? I don't live in one, I'm in awe of those who do... And I don't expect it from anyone. ... But to not even live by basic standards... That is disrespectful to your mother and her mother and well... to yourself.
If you live in a Shit-hole... it doesn't say anything about me, it says YOU think YOU deserve to live in a Shit-hole.
No one deserves that. Everyone deserves BETTER! And that is what I expect from people... strive to be better.
I wasn't always like this. I didn't have my own standards. But that was when I lived at home and I was expected to live up to my parents standards. But then I grew up, moved out and realized what those standards stood for and that I expected those same standards of myself...