Here is the Dad Post...
My Dad called me last night to tell me he was enjoying the best Lamb Chop Dinner EVER!!!! And to thank me for it. Then the bottom fell out. You see my Mom has been in the Hospital for a while. Thursday they completed the move to the Nursing home. She is supposed to be staying there till the 25th. He is trying to be strong, but he is fighting this totally overwhelming fear that she will not be getting out. He is scared that she is never coming home. And he lashed out at me...out of fear. I just let him go off, knowing he needed to talk to someone. I told him I would be down there if he wanted or needed me. He said absolutely no. He didn't want to be tripping over me, I would just be in his way.
So I may be going down there next weekend. Just to see my mom. And maybe arrange for her to get her hair done. I don't know what I'll do. But I want to do something. I do need to remember this isn't about me and what I want. So soon as she gets her phone, I will find out what SHE wants. And I will do my Damnedest to do it.
I'm not even allowed to tell Matthew about it. If he finds out that I didn't tell him...He will have a major shit hemorage!
So I am between a rock and a hard place. Do I keep Dad's confidence or do I tell Matt so he at least has a heads up...It is his Mother. I understand that Dad is protecting Matt, Heidi and especially the baby. But it isn't right to not let him know.
See my dilemma. I will have to think this one out for a couple of days. And since Dad talks to me about once a day, I will try to convince him that he needs to tell Matt.
It sure would put Mom over the Moon if he came down to visit her. She is getting a little down. This may be what she needs to give her the extra push she will need to get well.