I LOVE HIM
omgggg I've been spamming with shuri so much I feel like I must apologize to world
god I just--I took that personality disorder test thing and then immediately closed the tab (COMBO BREAKER! I'M NOT POSTING MY RESULTS!! ...but it wasn't all that well-adjusted), but what STRUCK ME was that I mean of course Shuri is a narcissist but I never actually read up on narcissistic personality disorder to go oh my god it's shuri forever and ever exactly. ...what I mean by that is: it's just like all of my headcanon on how his mind works. :x WHICH IS NOT SO CANON but I think I am kind of justified in saying shuri is a fucking narcissist don't you
LOOK AT THIS SITE!!
TO BEGIN WITH
It's also interesting to compare these traits ... with characteristics of normal six-year-olds.
INDEED SO.
Here is why I am so awesome.
-The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. ... When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! to be fair I actually play Shuri on sometimes admitting things when outright called out on it, but then there are other things that he will deny forever even when he has just basically admitted it previous. H-His attitude to his own sexuality is kind of weird like this.
-... casual dishonesty and cruelty to other people. Trying to reform narcissists by reasoning with them or by appealing to their better nature is about as effective as spitting in the ocean.
-Narcissists lack a mature conscience and seem to be restrained only by fear of being punished or of damaging their reputations... Anyhow, narcissists can't be counted on not to do something just because it's wrong... as long as they think that they can get away with it or that you can't stop them or punish them (i.e., they don't care what you think unless they're afraid of you). LOL THE LAST PART
-Narcissists are (a) extremely sensitive to personal criticism and (b) extremely critical of other people. They think that they must be seen as perfect or superior or infallible ... or else they are worthless. Actually I've been meaning to comment on this somewhere because it has a lot do with ahahaha ALL THESE THREADS WHERE SHURI HAS BEEN BREAKING DOWN ON PEOPLE LATELY, which is sort of tied into this thing where... if people aren't completely opaque about their feelings towards him, he doesn't pick up on the underlying "I'm telling you this because it's for your own good" aspect. If people are lecturing him, they don't love him or care about him at all, when really if someone is bothering to lecture him--yeah. If people don't lavish him with positive attention... I'm sure you get it. GOD I'M STILL SORRY TAKANARI.
-The other "punishment" narcissists mete out is banishing you from their glorious presence... The narcissist expects that you will be devastated by the withdrawal of her/his divine attention, so that after a while ... the narcissist will expect you to have learned your lesson and be eager to return to the fold. REMEMBER THAT TIME I REFUSED TO TALK TO HAKUREN.
-...though narcissists hate their real selves, they don't want to change -- they want the world to change. And they criticize, gripe, and complain about almost everything and almost everyone almost all the time.
-There are usually a favored few whom narcissists regard as absolutely above reproach, even for egregious misconduct or actual crime, and about whom they won't brook the slightest criticism. NOTE: I HAVE BEEN BREAKING THIS RULE LATELY TOO. But lodging criticism against his ~idols~ is not at all new or familiar for him :x Awkwarrrrd
-Narcissists are hostile and ferocious in reaction, but they are generally passive and lacking in initiative. ... They will complain about the same things for years on end, but only rarely do anything to change what dissatisfies them so badly.
-Narcissists are naive and vulnerable, pathetic really, no matter how arrogant and forceful their words or demeanor. ... They are so out of touch with other people and what goes on around them that they are very susceptible to exploitation. On the other hand, they're so inattentive, and so disconnected from what other people are up to, that they don't recognize when someone is taking advantage of them.
-They live in an artificial self invented from fantasies of absolute or perfect power, genius, beauty, etc. ... Narcissists don't see themselves doing anything except being adored, and they don't see anyone else doing anything except adoring them.
-...you shouldn't be surprised to hear a narcissist say something like, "Didn't the Beatles have a couple of hit songs while we were in high school?" or to suddenly discover that the narcissist doesn't know that M&M's have little m's on them or that smallpox was eradicated over 20 years ago. They are not being ironic: they really don't know. They were off in their own little world of fantastic perfection.
-They want to be authority figures and, short of that, they want to be associated with authority figures. In their hearts, they know they can't think well, have no judgment about what matters, are not connected with the world they inhabit, so they cling fanatically to the opinions of people they regard as authority figures -- such as their parents, teachers, doctors, ministers.
-...narcissists don't understand how people achieve glory and high standing; they think it's all arbitrary, it's all appearances, it's all who you know. So they try to attach themselves to people who already have what they want, meanwhile making a great show of working hard. ... Narcissists measure the worth of their work only by how much time they spend on it, not by what they produce. They want to get an A for Effort. AGAIN, TO BE FAIR, THIS... ACTUALLY HAS WORKED FOR SHURI IN LIFE
Okay and now I'm hitting a lot of stuff that doesn't really apply so. BUT STILL.
-It's very hard to have a simple, uncomplicated good time with a narcissist. Except for odd spells of heady euphoria unrelated to anything you can see, their affective range is mediocre-fake-normal to hell-on-Earth.
-There is only one way to please a narcissist (and it won't please you): that is to indulge their every whim, cater to their tiniest impulses, bend to their views on every little thing.
-Appearances are all there is with narcissists -- and their self-hatred knows no bounds. ...if they really loved him... they would have believed his lies without question or doubt. I'm not gonna say SELF-HATRED KNOWS NO BOUNDS! uh, that's kinda dramatic. But yes along those lines he knows somewhere in him who he really is and thinks it sucks. further along those lines:
-If you try to straighten them out, by telling them that your feelings are different, beware: their idea of sharing their feelings is to do or say something that makes you feel the way they're feeling and, as they make a point of not sharing anything desirable, you can expect something really nasty.
-...they don't have a good reason for anything they do and they think everyone else is just like them, except they're honest and the rest of us are hypocrites. Nothing real is ever perfect enough to satisfy them, so are they are constantly complaining and criticizing -- to the point of verbal abuse and insult.
-Narcissists hate to live alone. Their inner resources are skimpy, static, and sterile, nothing interesting or attractive going on in their hearts and minds, so they don't want to be stuck with themselves.
I definitely think that there are things in there that simply do not apply to Shuri but AS A WHOLE, IT'S A GOOD. General gist. I QUOTED THE PARTS THAT ARE RELEVANT. NARCISSISM, SHURI SPECIAL ABRIDGED EDITION. 8)
god I just--I took that personality disorder test thing and then immediately closed the tab (COMBO BREAKER! I'M NOT POSTING MY RESULTS!! ...but it wasn't all that well-adjusted), but what STRUCK ME was that I mean of course Shuri is a narcissist but I never actually read up on narcissistic personality disorder to go oh my god it's shuri forever and ever exactly. ...what I mean by that is: it's just like all of my headcanon on how his mind works. :x WHICH IS NOT SO CANON but I think I am kind of justified in saying shuri is a fucking narcissist don't you
LOOK AT THIS SITE!!
TO BEGIN WITH
It's also interesting to compare these traits ... with characteristics of normal six-year-olds.
INDEED SO.
Here is why I am so awesome.
-The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. ... When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! to be fair I actually play Shuri on sometimes admitting things when outright called out on it, but then there are other things that he will deny forever even when he has just basically admitted it previous. H-His attitude to his own sexuality is kind of weird like this.
-... casual dishonesty and cruelty to other people. Trying to reform narcissists by reasoning with them or by appealing to their better nature is about as effective as spitting in the ocean.
-Narcissists lack a mature conscience and seem to be restrained only by fear of being punished or of damaging their reputations... Anyhow, narcissists can't be counted on not to do something just because it's wrong... as long as they think that they can get away with it or that you can't stop them or punish them (i.e., they don't care what you think unless they're afraid of you). LOL THE LAST PART
-Narcissists are (a) extremely sensitive to personal criticism and (b) extremely critical of other people. They think that they must be seen as perfect or superior or infallible ... or else they are worthless. Actually I've been meaning to comment on this somewhere because it has a lot do with ahahaha ALL THESE THREADS WHERE SHURI HAS BEEN BREAKING DOWN ON PEOPLE LATELY, which is sort of tied into this thing where... if people aren't completely opaque about their feelings towards him, he doesn't pick up on the underlying "I'm telling you this because it's for your own good" aspect. If people are lecturing him, they don't love him or care about him at all, when really if someone is bothering to lecture him--yeah. If people don't lavish him with positive attention... I'm sure you get it. GOD I'M STILL SORRY TAKANARI.
-The other "punishment" narcissists mete out is banishing you from their glorious presence... The narcissist expects that you will be devastated by the withdrawal of her/his divine attention, so that after a while ... the narcissist will expect you to have learned your lesson and be eager to return to the fold. REMEMBER THAT TIME I REFUSED TO TALK TO HAKUREN.
-...though narcissists hate their real selves, they don't want to change -- they want the world to change. And they criticize, gripe, and complain about almost everything and almost everyone almost all the time.
-There are usually a favored few whom narcissists regard as absolutely above reproach, even for egregious misconduct or actual crime, and about whom they won't brook the slightest criticism. NOTE: I HAVE BEEN BREAKING THIS RULE LATELY TOO. But lodging criticism against his ~idols~ is not at all new or familiar for him :x Awkwarrrrd
-Narcissists are hostile and ferocious in reaction, but they are generally passive and lacking in initiative. ... They will complain about the same things for years on end, but only rarely do anything to change what dissatisfies them so badly.
-Narcissists are naive and vulnerable, pathetic really, no matter how arrogant and forceful their words or demeanor. ... They are so out of touch with other people and what goes on around them that they are very susceptible to exploitation. On the other hand, they're so inattentive, and so disconnected from what other people are up to, that they don't recognize when someone is taking advantage of them.
-They live in an artificial self invented from fantasies of absolute or perfect power, genius, beauty, etc. ... Narcissists don't see themselves doing anything except being adored, and they don't see anyone else doing anything except adoring them.
-...you shouldn't be surprised to hear a narcissist say something like, "Didn't the Beatles have a couple of hit songs while we were in high school?" or to suddenly discover that the narcissist doesn't know that M&M's have little m's on them or that smallpox was eradicated over 20 years ago. They are not being ironic: they really don't know. They were off in their own little world of fantastic perfection.
-They want to be authority figures and, short of that, they want to be associated with authority figures. In their hearts, they know they can't think well, have no judgment about what matters, are not connected with the world they inhabit, so they cling fanatically to the opinions of people they regard as authority figures -- such as their parents, teachers, doctors, ministers.
-...narcissists don't understand how people achieve glory and high standing; they think it's all arbitrary, it's all appearances, it's all who you know. So they try to attach themselves to people who already have what they want, meanwhile making a great show of working hard. ... Narcissists measure the worth of their work only by how much time they spend on it, not by what they produce. They want to get an A for Effort. AGAIN, TO BE FAIR, THIS... ACTUALLY HAS WORKED FOR SHURI IN LIFE
Okay and now I'm hitting a lot of stuff that doesn't really apply so. BUT STILL.
-It's very hard to have a simple, uncomplicated good time with a narcissist. Except for odd spells of heady euphoria unrelated to anything you can see, their affective range is mediocre-fake-normal to hell-on-Earth.
-There is only one way to please a narcissist (and it won't please you): that is to indulge their every whim, cater to their tiniest impulses, bend to their views on every little thing.
-Appearances are all there is with narcissists -- and their self-hatred knows no bounds. ...if they really loved him... they would have believed his lies without question or doubt. I'm not gonna say SELF-HATRED KNOWS NO BOUNDS! uh, that's kinda dramatic. But yes along those lines he knows somewhere in him who he really is and thinks it sucks. further along those lines:
-If you try to straighten them out, by telling them that your feelings are different, beware: their idea of sharing their feelings is to do or say something that makes you feel the way they're feeling and, as they make a point of not sharing anything desirable, you can expect something really nasty.
-...they don't have a good reason for anything they do and they think everyone else is just like them, except they're honest and the rest of us are hypocrites. Nothing real is ever perfect enough to satisfy them, so are they are constantly complaining and criticizing -- to the point of verbal abuse and insult.
-Narcissists hate to live alone. Their inner resources are skimpy, static, and sterile, nothing interesting or attractive going on in their hearts and minds, so they don't want to be stuck with themselves.
I definitely think that there are things in there that simply do not apply to Shuri but AS A WHOLE, IT'S A GOOD. General gist. I QUOTED THE PARTS THAT ARE RELEVANT. NARCISSISM, SHURI SPECIAL ABRIDGED EDITION. 8)