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So...I need to get something off my chest here...
John and I have talked about the future for a while now. Like our future together. Like joint checking account, white picket fence, same last name kind of future. I love him so much and I hope all the things we dream about come true.
Except...we have much different plans for immediately after college. Both of us are very passionate about our future careers. He wants to work border patrol for a few years before joining the DEA or CIA. I want to go to grad school and then work as a conservationist for an environmental organization, specifically on or near the coast/ocean. Obviously protecting the border and protecting the ocean require much different locations. I started looking at grad schools in southern california, and found a great program in San Diego. But...what if I find a better one in Florida, or South Carolina, or Virginia, or Massachusetts? Neither of us deserve to give up on what we want in life, but does that mean we are destined to lead a long-distance relationship until we settle down with serious careers 6 years down the road?
And the better question...if we don't want to spend the next half-dozen years spending more time apart than together, who's going to give? Who's going to make that sacrifice? I understand that relationships require a bit of compromise. But how do you decide who makes the bigger sacrifice. We're both too stubborn for our own good...
And I realize this is in the relatively distant future, but grad school and post-grad work? It's something to start looking into...
John and I have talked about the future for a while now. Like our future together. Like joint checking account, white picket fence, same last name kind of future. I love him so much and I hope all the things we dream about come true.
Except...we have much different plans for immediately after college. Both of us are very passionate about our future careers. He wants to work border patrol for a few years before joining the DEA or CIA. I want to go to grad school and then work as a conservationist for an environmental organization, specifically on or near the coast/ocean. Obviously protecting the border and protecting the ocean require much different locations. I started looking at grad schools in southern california, and found a great program in San Diego. But...what if I find a better one in Florida, or South Carolina, or Virginia, or Massachusetts? Neither of us deserve to give up on what we want in life, but does that mean we are destined to lead a long-distance relationship until we settle down with serious careers 6 years down the road?
And the better question...if we don't want to spend the next half-dozen years spending more time apart than together, who's going to give? Who's going to make that sacrifice? I understand that relationships require a bit of compromise. But how do you decide who makes the bigger sacrifice. We're both too stubborn for our own good...
And I realize this is in the relatively distant future, but grad school and post-grad work? It's something to start looking into...