I could tell him why, too. Its a stupid way to look at it because regardless of Carly starting it, Carly is not going to be the one to finish it. The way she's been approaching this, its over unless Sam decides to tell her otherwise. She hasn't been willing to hear about him, and she thinks there's nothing more for her to do.
Carly is focusing on getting over it, because as far as she's concerned, that's all she can do. Try to tell her otherwise and she won't listen to it. She knows she screwed up. She thinks she deserves her life the way it is now.
Maybe she does, but when all three of them are suffering because of it, I tend to think it can be fixed no matter what karma wants for her.
"I'm sorry. I haven't completely stopped being mad yet."
I wonder how much he thinks being mad is going to solve. I knew I shouldn't have gotten in the middle of this. I can't do it without wanting to argue that they should get back together. And in some ways, I want to defend Carly too. No matter what she did, she's still a good person, and she still loves her family. She may not be a logical person, but I think you can only take the anger so far sometimes.
"Mostly I'm just tired of this. And I don't know how I'm going to convince her that she's still the one I want. I already told Natasha off more than once for coming here like she did."
Is it wrong of me to think the whole thing could have been avoided if Sam would have just told her to come back later when she showed up? I know Carly still wouldn't have been happy about it, but if he'd prepared her for it, and explained it, and not wanted to abruptly walk out with Natasha the way he did, it would have been different.
She'd have been pissed instead of heartbroken. He'd have had to put up with one day of the silent treatment and it would have ended after that.
"But I know Carly's not going to change her mind."
"Carly isn't going to approach you about this, if that's what you mean." I sighed. "But I don't think she'll need a lot of convincing. She knows there was a lot wrong with the way that she acted."
"... And just so we're clear, I'm surprised you did this. Does she even know you're here?"
"No, she doesn't." And she won't, if I have any say in it. "I only did it because you both seem so far from getting this resolved, and its starting to affect Julia a lot more than either one of you seem to realize."
She's okay, but she's not happy. I think they both like to forget that they're not the only ones paying for their mistakes anymore. Sam may miss her, and Carly may say its hard to deal with her on her own, but I don't think either of them understand that Julia can process that something is wrong with her family. She knows its not normal to just have Carly with her.
...I'll say it. If Sam hates me dating Arianna after this, I'll work it out somehow.
"You're both hurting your daughter. Carly for starting it, and you for letting it last as long as it has."
They're both so afraid of being bad parents, and yet, that's exactly what they're doing now.
"It would be different if you guys didn't love each other, but you do."
Anyone could see them breaking up if they didn't care anymore. Damn. I think we'd all be pulling for it if that was the reason being them not wanting to be together. But this was one fight, over something that happened a long time ago. It got out of control, that's all. And instead of fixing it, they're letting themselves, and Julia, stay miserable.
"Carly made a mistake. Just like you did when you left her after high school. It wasn't right, but it happened, and all you can do is work on it from here on out. Considering that you love Carly, and that she's forgiven you for every mistake you've ever made, maybe you should stop being angry and let her have this one. Try to work it out."
Its official. Arianna's brother hates me.
"You're abandoning them both if you do anything less."
"Carly isn't going to approach you about this, if that's what you mean."
I wasn't expecting that much. Heaven forbid she decides to handle this herself, and actually come to me, and say she's sorry.
It has to be me. Always. Because she makes everything oh so freakin' justified inside her head, and she has to blindly keep believing she did the right thing, no matter how wrong it is.
"But I don't think she'll need a lot of convincing. She knows there was a lot wrong with the way that she acted."
I really doubt that.
"No, she doesn't. I only did it because you both seem so far from getting this resolved, and its starting to affect Julia a lot more than either one of you seem to realize."
I know it's affecting Julia. If I didn't, how she's acting right now would tell me. I don't like this anymore than she does. And I would get this resolved if I could figure out what to say about this. She is going to need convincing. That's how Carly is.
I smiled a little when I felt Julia's hand on my cheek, and turned my head, kissing her hand. He's right, she does know what's going on. Not completely, but she knows enough.
"You're both hurting your daughter. Carly for starting it, and you for letting it last as long as it has."
And now he's going to tell me more of what I already know.
"It would be different if you guys didn't love each other, but you do."
Tell that to Carly. She's the one who seems to think I'd be better off with someone else. That I left everything and went back to her because I had to 'grow up sometime'. It was nothing like that.
"Carly made a mistake. Just like you did when you left her after high school. It wasn't right, but it happened, and all you can do is work on it from here on out. Considering that you love Carly, and that she's forgiven you for every mistake you've ever made, maybe you should stop being angry and let her have this one. Try to work it out."
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"You're abandoning them both if you do anything less."
I think I'd say something jackass worthy, if it weren't for three things. One, he brought Julia. He goes, she goes. Two, Arianna would give me three shades of hell for the next month. Or three.
"That's a stupid way to look at it."
I could tell him why, too. Its a stupid way to look at it because regardless of Carly starting it, Carly is not going to be the one to finish it. The way she's been approaching this, its over unless Sam decides to tell her otherwise. She hasn't been willing to hear about him, and she thinks there's nothing more for her to do.
Carly is focusing on getting over it, because as far as she's concerned, that's all she can do. Try to tell her otherwise and she won't listen to it. She knows she screwed up. She thinks she deserves her life the way it is now.
Maybe she does, but when all three of them are suffering because of it, I tend to think it can be fixed no matter what karma wants for her.
"I'm sorry. I haven't completely stopped being mad yet."
I wonder how much he thinks being mad is going to solve. I knew I shouldn't have gotten in the middle of this. I can't do it without wanting to argue that they should get back together. And in some ways, I want to defend Carly too. No matter what she did, she's still a good person, and she still loves her family. She may not be a logical person, but I think you can only take the anger so far sometimes.
"Mostly I'm just tired of this. And I don't know how I'm going to convince her that she's still the one I want. I already told Natasha off more than once for coming here like she did."
Is it wrong of me to think the whole thing could have been avoided if Sam would have just told her to come back later when she showed up? I know Carly still wouldn't have been happy about it, but if he'd prepared her for it, and explained it, and not wanted to abruptly walk out with Natasha the way he did, it would have been different.
She'd have been pissed instead of heartbroken. He'd have had to put up with one day of the silent treatment and it would have ended after that.
"But I know Carly's not going to change her mind."
"Carly isn't going to approach you about this, if that's what you mean." I sighed. "But I don't think she'll need a lot of convincing. She knows there was a lot wrong with the way that she acted."
"... And just so we're clear, I'm surprised you did this. Does she even know you're here?"
"No, she doesn't." And she won't, if I have any say in it. "I only did it because you both seem so far from getting this resolved, and its starting to affect Julia a lot more than either one of you seem to realize."
She's okay, but she's not happy. I think they both like to forget that they're not the only ones paying for their mistakes anymore. Sam may miss her, and Carly may say its hard to deal with her on her own, but I don't think either of them understand that Julia can process that something is wrong with her family. She knows its not normal to just have Carly with her.
...I'll say it. If Sam hates me dating Arianna after this, I'll work it out somehow.
"You're both hurting your daughter. Carly for starting it, and you for letting it last as long as it has."
They're both so afraid of being bad parents, and yet, that's exactly what they're doing now.
"It would be different if you guys didn't love each other, but you do."
Anyone could see them breaking up if they didn't care anymore. Damn. I think we'd all be pulling for it if that was the reason being them not wanting to be together. But this was one fight, over something that happened a long time ago. It got out of control, that's all. And instead of fixing it, they're letting themselves, and Julia, stay miserable.
"Carly made a mistake. Just like you did when you left her after high school. It wasn't right, but it happened, and all you can do is work on it from here on out. Considering that you love Carly, and that she's forgiven you for every mistake you've ever made, maybe you should stop being angry and let her have this one. Try to work it out."
Its official. Arianna's brother hates me.
"You're abandoning them both if you do anything less."
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I wasn't expecting that much. Heaven forbid she decides to handle this herself, and actually come to me, and say she's sorry.
It has to be me. Always. Because she makes everything oh so freakin' justified inside her head, and she has to blindly keep believing she did the right thing, no matter how wrong it is.
"But I don't think she'll need a lot of convincing. She knows there was a lot wrong with the way that she acted."
I really doubt that.
"No, she doesn't. I only did it because you both seem so far from getting this resolved, and its starting to affect Julia a lot more than either one of you seem to realize."
I know it's affecting Julia. If I didn't, how she's acting right now would tell me. I don't like this anymore than she does. And I would get this resolved if I could figure out what to say about this. She is going to need convincing. That's how Carly is.
I smiled a little when I felt Julia's hand on my cheek, and turned my head, kissing her hand. He's right, she does know what's going on. Not completely, but she knows enough.
"You're both hurting your daughter. Carly for starting it, and you for letting it last as long as it has."
And now he's going to tell me more of what I already know.
"It would be different if you guys didn't love each other, but you do."
Tell that to Carly. She's the one who seems to think I'd be better off with someone else. That I left everything and went back to her because I had to 'grow up sometime'. It was nothing like that.
"Carly made a mistake. Just like you did when you left her after high school. It wasn't right, but it happened, and all you can do is work on it from here on out. Considering that you love Carly, and that she's forgiven you for every mistake you've ever made, maybe you should stop being angry and let her have this one. Try to work it out."
...
"You're abandoning them both if you do anything less."
I think I'd say something jackass worthy, if it weren't for three things. One, he brought Julia. He goes, she goes. Two, Arianna would give me three shades of hell for the next month. Or three.
Three, he's right.
I hate that.
"I know. I get it."
I don't have much else to say that.
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