The mother of the boyfriend
So, I've always known that Elias's mother was in love with his previous girlfriend, Kristen. Kristen so happens to be my studio mentor and she's how I met Elias. However, they broke up a while ago and now we're together. Anyways, I thought that I had made a good impression on the parents, and that I was in the clear for being an acceptable girlfriend. Well, I was wrong. Needless to say, this summer I've been wondering what has been taking his "parents" so long to decide when I was going to come up and stay. I thought it was a monetary issue, so I didn't think too much of it. I knew that his dad liked me, and his sister seems to like me okay. It's always been his mother that I've been afraid of. Well, the other day he said that when I did come up that I needed to be more "bubbley and cheery". I thought that this was strange of him to tell me, and I asked why. Well apparently his mother after his graduation thinks that I'm depressed and that I'm a psycho like a previous girlfriend he had, and that I'm overly dependent on him and that I'm not in his best interests.
Great.
I met his parents at their home, which I brought them dark Lindt chocolates (like five bags) because that's what Elias told me that they liked. Elias isn't very good at informing me about hobbies and such. Anyways, so I brought it and they both had a smile on their faces. Me and Elias's dad hit it off on the bat, because he's actually a lot like my dad. So it wasn't that hard. His mother seemed very nice too, however she got offended when I told Elias that his mom was very pretty. I thought that was strange, and I was really polite and very respectful. Also, I was nervous, which doesn't help. That encounter didn't last very long, but I thought it was a very good one.
At Elias's graduation, there was a lot of stuff going on. His mother didn't understand why it was rude to just ask me to house both his cousin and his sister in my apartment, without really telling me what the plans were. I had never met his cousin before and I had met his sister briefly. Sarah Hunter (my apartment mate) was being a Gradzilla (or, just an uber bitch). So I was constantly having a battle in my apartment, and I was a little sad to see Elias graduate, not knowing what would happen next, when I would see him, or what next school year would be like. Plus, I had just found out that my aunt was in a pretty deep stage of breast cancer, and wasn't looking to make it through, which didn't help my cause. So needless to say, I wasn't my normal, cheery self and there was a bit of nerves still (now meeting extended family), as well as all of this background information.
She said that I looked sad. Well, I wonder why?
She thinks that I am not good enough for him. Upon not really getting to meet me under the right circumstances. While Kristen was the "perfect" girlfriend, always cheery, never stressed, and not demanding of Elias's time. Which is funny, because the exact opposite is why they both broke up. Kristen was a faker, and a good one at that. I love her to death, but I'm SO much more laid back than she is, as well as not demanding of Elias's time (while she was off doing other things, Elias wasn't allowed to go out with anyone and had to stay alone in his room until she came back).
I work and make money, and buy Elias things, and NEVER ask for anything. Kristen made Elias spend every penny that he had.
It didn't help that it was Kristen's graduation too, the family saw her, and they all gave her huge hugs and asked her a billion questions, not giving me a chance to talk to them after the ceremony. Not that I didn't think that this was abnormal (asking how everything is, etc.) since they knew her for a while, but Kristen totally overshadowed me and made me seem like the worst girlfriend in the world. What makes it worse was Grant, who was standing next to me, made a comment about it too.
His mom finally made the decision for me to come up again, which I spent more money on, but she just won't let her son make his own decisions. She basically doesn't want him to be with me, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to act like someone that I'm not, or have to work hard to fill someone else's shoes. I don't want to have to be another "Kristen".
Kristen said when he and I first started dating that his parents would love me. I just don't know why his mom just won't give me a chance. And I don't know how to make a better impression or change how she perceives me. And now I'm even more nervous to go up there, to the extent that I told Elias that I think I don't want her to make up her mind because I'm too scared for her to dislike me even more.
Great.
I met his parents at their home, which I brought them dark Lindt chocolates (like five bags) because that's what Elias told me that they liked. Elias isn't very good at informing me about hobbies and such. Anyways, so I brought it and they both had a smile on their faces. Me and Elias's dad hit it off on the bat, because he's actually a lot like my dad. So it wasn't that hard. His mother seemed very nice too, however she got offended when I told Elias that his mom was very pretty. I thought that was strange, and I was really polite and very respectful. Also, I was nervous, which doesn't help. That encounter didn't last very long, but I thought it was a very good one.
At Elias's graduation, there was a lot of stuff going on. His mother didn't understand why it was rude to just ask me to house both his cousin and his sister in my apartment, without really telling me what the plans were. I had never met his cousin before and I had met his sister briefly. Sarah Hunter (my apartment mate) was being a Gradzilla (or, just an uber bitch). So I was constantly having a battle in my apartment, and I was a little sad to see Elias graduate, not knowing what would happen next, when I would see him, or what next school year would be like. Plus, I had just found out that my aunt was in a pretty deep stage of breast cancer, and wasn't looking to make it through, which didn't help my cause. So needless to say, I wasn't my normal, cheery self and there was a bit of nerves still (now meeting extended family), as well as all of this background information.
She said that I looked sad. Well, I wonder why?
She thinks that I am not good enough for him. Upon not really getting to meet me under the right circumstances. While Kristen was the "perfect" girlfriend, always cheery, never stressed, and not demanding of Elias's time. Which is funny, because the exact opposite is why they both broke up. Kristen was a faker, and a good one at that. I love her to death, but I'm SO much more laid back than she is, as well as not demanding of Elias's time (while she was off doing other things, Elias wasn't allowed to go out with anyone and had to stay alone in his room until she came back).
I work and make money, and buy Elias things, and NEVER ask for anything. Kristen made Elias spend every penny that he had.
It didn't help that it was Kristen's graduation too, the family saw her, and they all gave her huge hugs and asked her a billion questions, not giving me a chance to talk to them after the ceremony. Not that I didn't think that this was abnormal (asking how everything is, etc.) since they knew her for a while, but Kristen totally overshadowed me and made me seem like the worst girlfriend in the world. What makes it worse was Grant, who was standing next to me, made a comment about it too.
His mom finally made the decision for me to come up again, which I spent more money on, but she just won't let her son make his own decisions. She basically doesn't want him to be with me, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to act like someone that I'm not, or have to work hard to fill someone else's shoes. I don't want to have to be another "Kristen".
Kristen said when he and I first started dating that his parents would love me. I just don't know why his mom just won't give me a chance. And I don't know how to make a better impression or change how she perceives me. And now I'm even more nervous to go up there, to the extent that I told Elias that I think I don't want her to make up her mind because I'm too scared for her to dislike me even more.