Grrrr...
Yah know what really pisses me off? When you're told two weeks ago by your "sister-in-law" that your nephew's b-day party is gonna be this Sunday. So you plan your weekend around that, making sure that all of Sunday is open b/c she also fails to tell you what time she's having the festivities. So you go ahead last week make plans for your friend to come down from S'hwa friday night, go out dancin' and then shopping Saturday...only to find out today that now you sister-in-law - who eveything revolves around - has changed it to Saturday at 11:30am!
First off, on my Saturday's I like to sleep in. Ya know why, b/c I have worked all week (I am not on maternity leave) and because it's not my fault that I don't have kids and can enjoy the luxury of sleeping in. Second, who has a 1st b-day party at 11:30am on a Saturday, unless it's an outing, or scheduled event? *This is just go to her house and have cake and tea, yah good breakfast, cake, yum!
I am all for being accommodating and such, but this is not the first time that we have not been considered in the planning. If it's so important to her that we be there, then perhaps setting the date and keeping it should be important. So now, I dunno what to do, Mike's pissed off b/c I said "tough I am not going, go by yourself". And I certainly don't want to put Kristine out by asking her to change it back to Sunday where she initially had it. I just get so frustrated b/c that whole family drops everything for her! Oh, its ok, we'll do the party Saturday, none of us had any plans. Yet, my friend booked off the Saturday so she could come down overnight. And Mike says "well can't you just come to the party and then go shopping". Yah ok, so Jess is suppose to sit around and wait for me on her day off b/c my sister-in-law is inconsiderate and changes the date at the last minute. Again, I missed Jadyn's birthday a couple of times because someone conveniantly planned it on Thanksgiving Sunday, when they know I spend it with my family. *Even when Jadyn's brithday *Oct. 9* was actually the day before thanksgiving, nope, we're gonna have in a day later...dunno why...makes sense to have the kids b-day on her b-day if it's on a saturday.
Another example of my sis-in-law being friggin fantastic. She calls me 2 weeks ago to ask a favour: she is going back to work in about a month *mat leave* and would like me to "do her makeup" one night, give her a refresher b/c she wants to start fresh when she returns (and she doesnt really wear make-up etc.). That's fine, I have absolutley no probs doing it, however, I am going to Mexico in 3 weeks, so my time is kinda limited, plus I have been trying to go to the gym every night of the week to make me feel better (the only time my stomach really isn't an issue seems to be when I am working out.)
So she asks me what nights are good for me, I say Wednesdays are good (thats mid- week and I can take a break from the gym before the gruelling Thursday step class). Well, wouldn't you know, Wednesdays are not good for her cause Shane has something he does that night and would be able to watch the kids or some stupid thing like that. So, wait, lemme refresh, you're asking me to take time for you, but I have to do it on your terms and i have to do it in the next 3 weeks, when I am trying to get my shit together to go away on March 3). And she suggest to me that perhaps a Friday night would be good....ok, last time I checked, after working all week the last thing I wanna do is hang out with my sis-in-law on a friday night and do her makeup. I'd much rather be relaxing, watching a movie or hanging out with my friends - silly me for being 27 and having a life with different priorities! How dare I!
And of course Mike gets mad. Because he drops everything for her, regardless of the situation. And I can appreciate that it's his sister etc. But, they never do that shit for us, never try and compromise, nothing, we just end up giving in all the time.
And I wonder why my stomach is crap and I have to wait until April 20 to see a gastroentologist. Geeze, maybe stress really IS a factor here. I felt like shit all weekend, had a killer migraine on Saturday...and this situation doesn't help me.
I can hardly wait for Mexico, cause right about now this issue had come to a head for me and I need a break. I am sick of dealing with her schedule, her way or the highway, had enuff, done, spent! It's a good thing my nephew is only turning 1, that way he'll have no recolection of the fact that his Auntie wasn't at the party.
First off, on my Saturday's I like to sleep in. Ya know why, b/c I have worked all week (I am not on maternity leave) and because it's not my fault that I don't have kids and can enjoy the luxury of sleeping in. Second, who has a 1st b-day party at 11:30am on a Saturday, unless it's an outing, or scheduled event? *This is just go to her house and have cake and tea, yah good breakfast, cake, yum!
I am all for being accommodating and such, but this is not the first time that we have not been considered in the planning. If it's so important to her that we be there, then perhaps setting the date and keeping it should be important. So now, I dunno what to do, Mike's pissed off b/c I said "tough I am not going, go by yourself". And I certainly don't want to put Kristine out by asking her to change it back to Sunday where she initially had it. I just get so frustrated b/c that whole family drops everything for her! Oh, its ok, we'll do the party Saturday, none of us had any plans. Yet, my friend booked off the Saturday so she could come down overnight. And Mike says "well can't you just come to the party and then go shopping". Yah ok, so Jess is suppose to sit around and wait for me on her day off b/c my sister-in-law is inconsiderate and changes the date at the last minute. Again, I missed Jadyn's birthday a couple of times because someone conveniantly planned it on Thanksgiving Sunday, when they know I spend it with my family. *Even when Jadyn's brithday *Oct. 9* was actually the day before thanksgiving, nope, we're gonna have in a day later...dunno why...makes sense to have the kids b-day on her b-day if it's on a saturday.
Another example of my sis-in-law being friggin fantastic. She calls me 2 weeks ago to ask a favour: she is going back to work in about a month *mat leave* and would like me to "do her makeup" one night, give her a refresher b/c she wants to start fresh when she returns (and she doesnt really wear make-up etc.). That's fine, I have absolutley no probs doing it, however, I am going to Mexico in 3 weeks, so my time is kinda limited, plus I have been trying to go to the gym every night of the week to make me feel better (the only time my stomach really isn't an issue seems to be when I am working out.)
So she asks me what nights are good for me, I say Wednesdays are good (thats mid- week and I can take a break from the gym before the gruelling Thursday step class). Well, wouldn't you know, Wednesdays are not good for her cause Shane has something he does that night and would be able to watch the kids or some stupid thing like that. So, wait, lemme refresh, you're asking me to take time for you, but I have to do it on your terms and i have to do it in the next 3 weeks, when I am trying to get my shit together to go away on March 3). And she suggest to me that perhaps a Friday night would be good....ok, last time I checked, after working all week the last thing I wanna do is hang out with my sis-in-law on a friday night and do her makeup. I'd much rather be relaxing, watching a movie or hanging out with my friends - silly me for being 27 and having a life with different priorities! How dare I!
And of course Mike gets mad. Because he drops everything for her, regardless of the situation. And I can appreciate that it's his sister etc. But, they never do that shit for us, never try and compromise, nothing, we just end up giving in all the time.
And I wonder why my stomach is crap and I have to wait until April 20 to see a gastroentologist. Geeze, maybe stress really IS a factor here. I felt like shit all weekend, had a killer migraine on Saturday...and this situation doesn't help me.
I can hardly wait for Mexico, cause right about now this issue had come to a head for me and I need a break. I am sick of dealing with her schedule, her way or the highway, had enuff, done, spent! It's a good thing my nephew is only turning 1, that way he'll have no recolection of the fact that his Auntie wasn't at the party.