Old entries--
So usually, if I get bored, I read over old entries from the past year on my LJ. Of course, almost exactly a year ago, I had this insane crush on Skippers. Ryan. LoL. And at one point I was like "It's so weird calling him Ryan!!" LoL but now, it's so weird calling him SKIPPERS! Haha...anyway. And I read this comment that someone left me and it made me laugh:
hey lauren, I'm not trying to be an asshole, but i just noticed something and i wanted to bring it to your attention.
you are 21 years old, but you're acting like you are 14. the hugs and the "play-crying" to other people when you don't get one. it just seems as though you are acting very childishly about guys the way you rant about them. And you seem to like lots of guys; not that you are slutty, but you seem to always have a crush on someone, and if it doesn't work out, you move on to the next boy. I think you should try dating an older guy, one who doesn't seem so immature like this guy.
Also, you were dating Ariel recently, and I noticed you were calling him your boyfriend very shortly after you started dating him (unless i'm mistaken). And then it ended shortly thereafter. I just think maybe take more time and get to know these guys better before you jump full into it.
I'm not knocking you Lauren. I think you are a very caring person, and have alot of love to give. I don't want this coming off as me shittalking. I just would like to see you in a relaitshonship that will last awhile, and it doesn't seem to be happening with the way things are going. I'm sorry if I upset you.
I love that last line. "I just would like to see you in a relationship that will last awhile, and it doesn't seem to be happening with the way things are going."
Yup, you called that one, buddy.
This is why I don't listen to other people. I think this is why people in general don't like to listen when others give them love/relationship advice. People always say "He's no good for you." or "Do this, do that, don't do this, etcetc." And sometimes, that may be true. Abusive relationships, jerky guys, whatever. And it may be that the relationship is no good and will never go anywhere and the people involved would be way better off with someone else. But...they're never gonna listen. People need to experience things on their own. Make decisions on their own terms.
I never listened when people told me about Golf Josh--he was a jerk, he didn't treat me right, it wouldn't turn out good. But! I stayed with him. Dealt with his crap. No, it didn't turn out very good, and eventually we "broke up." Or whatever. BUT. I learned a lot from that experience. And the more jerky guys I came into contact with, the more I realized how to tell if they were a jerk, or played games, and the more I realized what I wanted and didn't want in a relationship. And when I finally did find it, I sure as hell stuck with it. Granted, Bryce was the only person who attempted to discourage me from the relationship, but I knew things would go well with Ryan and I didn't let his comments affect me.
And now look at us. We've been together almost a year and are still totally happy together. I could see myself being with him for a long, long, long time...possibly even forever.
So I just wanted to say HA to Bryce. SEE?! So what if we were childish and flirty and stuff?? So what if I "moved on" quickly? If I wouldn't have moved on so quickly from Ariel, if I would have stuck around and played his games or even made a hermit out of myself and sworn off guys (which, mind you, I TRIED to do, haha), I may have missed the chance with Ryan. And who knows what jerk I'd be dealing with now?? LOL. SO yeah. That was my rant for today, but I went way off on a tangent so I think I've said everything I needed to say. Wow, I'm really tired.
hey lauren, I'm not trying to be an asshole, but i just noticed something and i wanted to bring it to your attention.
you are 21 years old, but you're acting like you are 14. the hugs and the "play-crying" to other people when you don't get one. it just seems as though you are acting very childishly about guys the way you rant about them. And you seem to like lots of guys; not that you are slutty, but you seem to always have a crush on someone, and if it doesn't work out, you move on to the next boy. I think you should try dating an older guy, one who doesn't seem so immature like this guy.
Also, you were dating Ariel recently, and I noticed you were calling him your boyfriend very shortly after you started dating him (unless i'm mistaken). And then it ended shortly thereafter. I just think maybe take more time and get to know these guys better before you jump full into it.
I'm not knocking you Lauren. I think you are a very caring person, and have alot of love to give. I don't want this coming off as me shittalking. I just would like to see you in a relaitshonship that will last awhile, and it doesn't seem to be happening with the way things are going. I'm sorry if I upset you.
I love that last line. "I just would like to see you in a relationship that will last awhile, and it doesn't seem to be happening with the way things are going."
Yup, you called that one, buddy.
This is why I don't listen to other people. I think this is why people in general don't like to listen when others give them love/relationship advice. People always say "He's no good for you." or "Do this, do that, don't do this, etcetc." And sometimes, that may be true. Abusive relationships, jerky guys, whatever. And it may be that the relationship is no good and will never go anywhere and the people involved would be way better off with someone else. But...they're never gonna listen. People need to experience things on their own. Make decisions on their own terms.
I never listened when people told me about Golf Josh--he was a jerk, he didn't treat me right, it wouldn't turn out good. But! I stayed with him. Dealt with his crap. No, it didn't turn out very good, and eventually we "broke up." Or whatever. BUT. I learned a lot from that experience. And the more jerky guys I came into contact with, the more I realized how to tell if they were a jerk, or played games, and the more I realized what I wanted and didn't want in a relationship. And when I finally did find it, I sure as hell stuck with it. Granted, Bryce was the only person who attempted to discourage me from the relationship, but I knew things would go well with Ryan and I didn't let his comments affect me.
And now look at us. We've been together almost a year and are still totally happy together. I could see myself being with him for a long, long, long time...possibly even forever.
So I just wanted to say HA to Bryce. SEE?! So what if we were childish and flirty and stuff?? So what if I "moved on" quickly? If I wouldn't have moved on so quickly from Ariel, if I would have stuck around and played his games or even made a hermit out of myself and sworn off guys (which, mind you, I TRIED to do, haha), I may have missed the chance with Ryan. And who knows what jerk I'd be dealing with now?? LOL. SO yeah. That was my rant for today, but I went way off on a tangent so I think I've said everything I needed to say. Wow, I'm really tired.