Thought-Stirring Post: Public Entry
Confrontation and conflict can be very triggering for abuse survivors. A conflict is, by definition, a fight or disagreement and therefore carries a heavy load of emotional and psychological duress. Most of us have not often had the pleasure of resolving conflicts in an agreeable manner--or at least not while being abused.
Conflict and confrontations can conjure so many related issues--anxiety, fear, trust issues, etc. However, they are unfortunately a part of life, and we are bound to face them when dealing with anything from re-signing a lease that has a shady clause in it to having to tell a good friend that we're angry with him or her.
Building skills and emotional resilience for conflict and confrontation can be very helpful if we're able to do so, particularly because future victories in those areas can help rebuild our strength and confidence in ourselves.
Questions:
Conflict and confrontations can conjure so many related issues--anxiety, fear, trust issues, etc. However, they are unfortunately a part of life, and we are bound to face them when dealing with anything from re-signing a lease that has a shady clause in it to having to tell a good friend that we're angry with him or her.
Building skills and emotional resilience for conflict and confrontation can be very helpful if we're able to do so, particularly because future victories in those areas can help rebuild our strength and confidence in ourselves.
Questions:
- In what areas of life do you most frequently face conflicts and confrontations?
- What kinds of negative effects do conflicts and confrontations have on you? How do they make you feel?
- Are there specific aspects related to conflicts and confrontations that you'd like to change or focus on for the future?
- Have you ever had a positive resolution to a conflict or confrontation? And if so, were there things about that experience that you have held onto?