Something seems to be missing...

[_spad_]

Lately I feel like there's this gap in my life that just needs to be filled. I feel like it's slowly been growing over the past few years and has finally begun to matter to me. I just feel like I'm missing out on one of the greatest things in life. If you haven't figured it out yet, I'm talking about love

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[vashutstampedo]

Coming from a Christian, my viewpoint is the person you're meant to spend your time with will reveal herself. And I mean, like a huge explosion - you won't miss it if your eyes are open.

Also, something I'd like to make note to you - you might want to think about what this will do to your available time, if you haven't already. You've been having a LOT of work, and I think it'll only get worse. You might not be physically able to support a relationship yet. But then, if it's meant to happen, it WILL happen :-P.

Don't take my word on your ability to support one as actual good reasoning - I've had more free time than any of us, and my love life has been a wreck from the get-go. I'm just noting it as one aspect of a relationship that might be necessary. Time is ALWAYS necessary - but maybe you'll find someone for whom doesn't need it in large amounts.

Maybe she'll look like a Spad :-P

Oh - one last thing - seek them out as friends. That's the best advice I can give you. You might end up skipping steps and wanting to start a relationship before actually acquiring a good bond with them. I know I have :(.

[_melancholy_]

the person you're meant to spend your time with will reveal herself

Very true, Jon. Even though I don't believe in love at first sight, I do believe that at first sight, one can often tell that they will love the person. But, I'm not so sure that expecting to marry your first girlfriend is such a good outlook to have on this sort of thing.

Your first girlfriend doesn't necessarily have to be perfect, especially since you're probably not entirely sure about what perfect exactly is. Dating is really just a trial and error situation. You win some and you lose some, and you always learn a few things about yourself, and about what type of person you'd eventually like to be with.

What I'm trying to say is, don't start out trying to find love. Just start by trying to meet some girls that seem to be your type, whatever you think that type might be.

[vashutstampedo]

Hypothetically speaking, if you became bonded friends with every girl on the planet, you could find the exact person you want without trial and error.

But then it's still hard cause there might be other factors and stuff.

*shrug*

As far as free time goes...

[_spad_]

I actually do have a lot of free time...on weekends. My weekends are generally boring and everyone seems to go home on weekends, so that doesn't help much either.

Re: As far as free time goes...

[vashutstampedo]

Then that might give you a good ground to start on - you're both a bunch of loners who don't bother to visit their parents on weekends :-P.

Try clubs on the weekends. Maybe you'll find someone you can bond with.