A mote in my eye, really?

[_skye_]

Dear Sir Judgmental; I cannot call you a friend anymore because you have insulted me, and my friend, and I have been quite firm with you, too, which you reacted to rather stronger than I expected. I doubt you will call me for lunch again, and I cannot say I'm disappointed after that horrible show of pride. You know very little of my current

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[neonstilettos]

*comfort in your direction* Definitely presumptuous of this fellow to assume he knew the entire depth/breadth/history of your spiritual life based on a single brief discussion and one (often not misunderstood) label. It's sad that so many people are prone to prejudgment to this extent, writing someone off based on a stereotype or random, questionable bit of information as opposed to making some attempt to understand and learn more. Understanding takes genuine effort and empathy, snap judgments take zero effort. It's sad. Also sad is that so few people are capable of viewing spirituality as a concept separate from religion, or even of viewing religion as something other than a series of rituals based on a doctrine performed in a set place of worship.

I sometimes wonder if being not Christian in this country is supposed to be this difficult. I've skirted with touchy conversations on this matter myself in places where it's really not appropriate; been asked point blank if I believed in the bible and Jesus as the messiah (awk-ward). It's not an easy situation to be in, and I think you took the right course of action. Stay true to yourself above all else-- for every person who doesn't care enough to truly understand, there'll be another who will.

[_skye_]

Thank you, YES.

It is a little bit like what I occasionally run into because I'm smart or capable and don't wish to hide it to salvage some poor fragile boy's ego (remember the poor-grammar guy?) People asking questions like those you mentioned, especially doing so point-blank, means that the person is categorizing us all binarily and that is NOT how ANYONE is, you know?

I was so angry about this guy and his wrong-headed behavior toward me, my friend, and this situation that I had to vent, but of course I am very lucky to have many people who are quite alive in the pursuit of meaning - yourself included - and I am VERY glad to be friends with all them. Good eggs all. :)