Parenthood Probz
One of the things I was frustrated about last week was when Nora was waking up multiple times through the night to feed. It's difficult since Dom works, I want to make sure he gets enough rest considering he has a 40-minute drive one-way to work and he works 10-hour days. The earliest I'll let him tend to Nora is 4am, which sometimes would give him a 6 or 7 hour sleep. I didn't mind since I'm able to nap during the day when she naps. On a typical night, I would feed her at 9 or 10pm, then again at 1 or 2am. And then Dom would feed her at 4 or 5am. It was tough, though, because she's not on a consistent schedule yet as she's still developing, so the inconsistency and the lack of sleep was starting to get to me.
So Wednesday last week, she woke up at 6am and Dom is typically getting ready for work at that time. I asked him if he could please use the snot sucker to clean her nose, as she was sounding nasally. Anyways, he gets the Snot Sucker, but proceeds to try to clean her nose in our room... after I just went to sleep 1.5 hours earlier. He asked me to hold her while he did it to hold her arms down so she wouldn't swipe away the thing. I was so frustrated, so I took the Snot Sucker that I had become Pro to using and proceeded to clean her nose. I started crying and when he asked me what was wrong, I told him that I hoped he would have taken her to her room to do it so I could get even a little bit more sleep. He apologized for having to go to work and tried to kiss me goodbye, but I was so upset and overwhelmed with exhaustion that I couldn't even kiss him goodbye so he kissed my forehead. I was overcome with stress trying to keep it together. It was his 10th out of 11 days working straight without a break and I just missed him. One weekened out of the month he has to work military drill, but he still would get his usual Friday off. This past month, his drill consisted of a 3-day weekend so he worked Clinic, Drill, Clinic until the following weekend.
Anyways, it was difficult. My Mom came over during the weekend, both Saturday and Sunday to help me out. She told me to rest, but all I wanted to do for whatever reason was clean... that's kind of my "me time". It's still not enough, though. Dom even asked me if he should ask his parents to drop to watch Nora for a little so I could rest, but that wasn't the solution, either. I could have a large amount of help, but it still wouldn't help -- and that's when I knew it was me missing Dom that was the real issue, not my lack of sleep or anything else.
Then our usual 3-day weekend hit. Finally. Dom asked his sister to babysit so we could finally get some quality time in that we desparately needed. We got food and drinks at Olive Garden and watched La La Land (which was totally the feels)... it was the perfect evening! I'm so grateful we have so much help so that we can go out and enjoy us, and work on our marriage.. the foundation of this family.
So Wednesday last week, she woke up at 6am and Dom is typically getting ready for work at that time. I asked him if he could please use the snot sucker to clean her nose, as she was sounding nasally. Anyways, he gets the Snot Sucker, but proceeds to try to clean her nose in our room... after I just went to sleep 1.5 hours earlier. He asked me to hold her while he did it to hold her arms down so she wouldn't swipe away the thing. I was so frustrated, so I took the Snot Sucker that I had become Pro to using and proceeded to clean her nose. I started crying and when he asked me what was wrong, I told him that I hoped he would have taken her to her room to do it so I could get even a little bit more sleep. He apologized for having to go to work and tried to kiss me goodbye, but I was so upset and overwhelmed with exhaustion that I couldn't even kiss him goodbye so he kissed my forehead. I was overcome with stress trying to keep it together. It was his 10th out of 11 days working straight without a break and I just missed him. One weekened out of the month he has to work military drill, but he still would get his usual Friday off. This past month, his drill consisted of a 3-day weekend so he worked Clinic, Drill, Clinic until the following weekend.
Anyways, it was difficult. My Mom came over during the weekend, both Saturday and Sunday to help me out. She told me to rest, but all I wanted to do for whatever reason was clean... that's kind of my "me time". It's still not enough, though. Dom even asked me if he should ask his parents to drop to watch Nora for a little so I could rest, but that wasn't the solution, either. I could have a large amount of help, but it still wouldn't help -- and that's when I knew it was me missing Dom that was the real issue, not my lack of sleep or anything else.
Then our usual 3-day weekend hit. Finally. Dom asked his sister to babysit so we could finally get some quality time in that we desparately needed. We got food and drinks at Olive Garden and watched La La Land (which was totally the feels)... it was the perfect evening! I'm so grateful we have so much help so that we can go out and enjoy us, and work on our marriage.. the foundation of this family.