Юные пираты

[_nevidimka]

Вчера у дочки в школе был утренник. Попели, рассказали стишки, потанцевали, пришел Дед Мороз. Мальчишки-пираты (по сценарию пираты) в кол-ве 3 штук сидят и в едином патриотическом порыве, подняв вверх руки, кричат "Россия! Другая

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Living Child Free

[peacetraveler22]

I tried to respond to the very interesting message you sent me, but for some reason it will not go through due to privacy settings on your account? So, I copied it below:

Hello!

Thanks for the very interesting email. The theories of perception based on age is complex, I've never heard of it. In general, I agree with the analysis.

"Many of the people, not only in Russia, but everywhere, don't go above one map or multiple maps. They have a concrete view about everything and aren't open to new idas, they tend to classify people and everything." YES, this is so true! But I believe this sickness is more widespread in Russia. There are plenty of close-minded people in America also, but we are a more tolerant nation in every respect. We have to be because we're so diverse. And we live in a completely open society when it comes to expression (sexually, verbally, politically, etc.).

I know we have communicated before on my blog, but I forget whether you're male or female? I can't tell by your animal avatars. :)

Btw, I tried to respond to the email you sent but got an error message about privacy settings so it wouldn't go through.

Shannon

Re: Living Child Free

[_nevidimka]

Hello.

My account is somehow flawed, and has been for years )= I joind LJ many years ago, when blogs were named not nick.livejournal.com, but users.livejournal.com/nick, didn't accept new style in time and because of that I couldn't open a Live ID in the years it seemed an excellent innovation that made joining some sites easier, as now do Facebook and some others; for the same reason, I think, I can't recieve private mail, what I tend to forget all the time (= Thank you very much for answering through my blog.

The theory was first proposed by a Russian socionics researcher, more a mathematician than a psychologist, so if one can overcome his/her prejudgement of socionics and people who waste time on it and tries to read his study, it all seems a bonkers set of mathematical nonsence. Luckily I had a psychology teacher who once worked with the man and had a talent for understanding and simplifying good ideas. Now this theory helps me explain a lot of things not only to my elder daughter, but to many of her friends.

I'm a "she" (= Actually I got married at 18, had first child at 20,been a housewife for years and now am torn apart between the wish to self-actualize through a job and the wish to spend more time with children and guide their growth process while they still want me to (oh how time flies!) - but I don't regret a minute of it all; and yet it's only my way of life and I don't mind other people living as they like.

Re: Living Child Free

[peacetraveler22]

As a stay at home mom/housewife, you sacrificed a lot for the happiness and well being of your family. Much respect to you! As I said in my post, I believe women like you are the true champions of the world. Now that your children are grown, you should focus on yourself a bit and pursue your dreams. :)

Re: Living Child Free

[_nevidimka]

Problem is they aren't. Younger one is almost 5, and it'd be best if I'd take him to different hobby groups since he's reached the age to be able to join a vast variety of them. Ofc if I earned enough we could hire a nanny - but to miss my child's years of growth... I'm this donkey stuck between two stacks of hay.
But it'll all sort itself out eventually, as it always did. Where's a will, there's a way.

Re: Living Child Free

[_nevidimka]

" YES, this is so true! But I believe this sickness is more widespread in Russia. There are plenty of close-minded people in America also, but we are a more tolerant nation in every respect. We have to be because we're so diverse. And we live in a completely open society when it comes to expression (sexually, verbally, politically, etc.). "

I've been thinking...
Imho the amount of people on different levels (if based on the system I described), or "rednecks" and all kinds of "intellectuals", or those who live simple and those who need more or even MORE, or whatever one names it - well the amount of all groups is almost the same within every nation. It's the level of culture that makes the difference - Russian multi-map level saying "women must marry and have children" simply presses down even on those of us who are personally above single-minded way of comprehension of life, so more people tend to take this point of view as granted or at least don't oppose it publically.
America, being on cube-level, doesn't push people into boundries of one-for-all doctrine.

Why I think the amount of people who aren't single-minded is... To begin from far away, I once read a genetic research on Drosophilidae, how each generation has a 10% amount of mutated specimen and most of the mutations aren't a benefit and also most are recessive. The 90% of usual flies add to preserving the species, and only a tiny amount of mutated ones add to the species' survivability.
It may sound silly, but imho same applies to all the species, including humans. Most must be simple, single-minded, most must be the crowd. They're the basis, preserving what we have already reached, the ways we learned to adapt, survive, evolve. Some are different (not "above", not "below" just different), and some of these different ones change the species, effect humanity in a way that often can't for centuries or forever be judged as totally positive or negative.