Re: Same as Jessica. I just want to help Part 3..... or 2betrue2July 13 2006, 03:48:16 UTC
You have 3 true friends that are trying to reach out to you. They are trying to save a friendship that they truly cherish, while you are throwing it away with no care. The ball is in your court. I want you to honestly think about what you are doing. You need to hear them out, find out exactly how you hurt them, and let them know how they hurt you. Make a rational decision.
Think about how you life would be without them. Would it be better? Worse? The same? Think about how you life would be if you never met Think about all the times you spent time and did things together Think about all the times you neglected them and weren't there for them. ( I am sure there has been times) Think about all the mistakes both ends have made. Think about what I said. Ask you husband to be completely honest with you and discuss this with him. Do you honestly think they don't care? Do you honestly not care about them?
Sit and think about it. Make a rational decision. It doesn't have to be a minute, a day or even a week. Make sure you are making the correct decision before throwing something away that you had for so long.
If I didn't care, I wouldn't be typing this. I think this is very important. I know it is important to the three of them. I may not talk to you very much. But I enjoy reading you journal. I know you pretty well through it and I care about you. I moved away before we really talked to each other. But I would have loved to, and I still do. I hope the next time I am in IL, we all can hang out. I may not always agree with you, but I don't always agree with anyone. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has misunderstandings, which alot of this wedding was. I know you didn't always like me, especially when we were little. Alot of that was because I was jealous of you, and maybe you were a little bit jealous of me, too. But I am asking you, not to make an irrational decision and wind up regretting it. I am asking you to take the time to really think about what happened, if it is forgivable, if your side is forgivable to them. To hear them out, and discuss both sides of the feelings and then make your decision.
You have 3 true friends reaching out to you to try to make you understand on how you hurt them and trying to correct the situation and continue on with your friendship. Yes, it may hurt you for a long time even if you do forgive them and accept their friendship still, but I think you still want and need these friendships.
I am going to end this now. I think I have went on long enough. But take what I say into consideration. It was not a post to upset you. To justify either of the sides. It was to make you see it in a different light and to get you to discuss what is on both of sides of it to each other, not on journals.
I wish you the best, even if I don't ever get to read another post of yours or get to hang out with you and the group. I hope Zach and you have amazing life. I hope you conquer your anxiety and move past it. I hope you get everything in your life that you want. I hope that you get over the bad things that happened in your past and start living for the present. Rather that is just with Zach or if you include me and the three of your closest friends.
Think about how you life would be without them. Would it be better? Worse? The same?
Think about how you life would be if you never met
Think about all the times you spent time and did things together
Think about all the times you neglected them and weren't there for them. ( I am sure there has been times)
Think about all the mistakes both ends have made.
Think about what I said.
Ask you husband to be completely honest with you and discuss this with him.
Do you honestly think they don't care?
Do you honestly not care about them?
Sit and think about it. Make a rational decision. It doesn't have to be a minute, a day or even a week. Make sure you are making the correct decision before throwing something away that you had for so long.
If I didn't care, I wouldn't be typing this. I think this is very important. I know it is important to the three of them. I may not talk to you very much. But I enjoy reading you journal. I know you pretty well through it and I care about you. I moved away before we really talked to each other. But I would have loved to, and I still do. I hope the next time I am in IL, we all can hang out. I may not always agree with you, but I don't always agree with anyone. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has misunderstandings, which alot of this wedding was. I know you didn't always like me, especially when we were little. Alot of that was because I was jealous of you, and maybe you were a little bit jealous of me, too. But I am asking you, not to make an irrational decision and wind up regretting it. I am asking you to take the time to really think about what happened, if it is forgivable, if your side is forgivable to them. To hear them out, and discuss both sides of the feelings and then make your decision.
You have 3 true friends reaching out to you to try to make you understand on how you hurt them and trying to correct the situation and continue on with your friendship. Yes, it may hurt you for a long time even if you do forgive them and accept their friendship still, but I think you still want and need these friendships.
I am going to end this now. I think I have went on long enough. But take what I say into consideration. It was not a post to upset you. To justify either of the sides. It was to make you see it in a different light and to get you to discuss what is on both of sides of it to each other, not on journals.
I wish you the best, even if I don't ever get to read another post of yours or get to hang out with you and the group. I hope Zach and you have amazing life. I hope you conquer your anxiety and move past it. I hope you get everything in your life that you want. I hope that you get over the bad things that happened in your past and start living for the present. Rather that is just with Zach or if you include me and the three of your closest friends.
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