My In-Laws Drive me Insane
Hello everyone my name is Brandi, I'm 25 and have been married for just over a year, my husband and I have been together for about 7 years and we have a 7month old son.
Before we had a child, my inlaws were ok, not very sociable, but we got along just fine... but then i got pregnant and it seemed like everything took a turn for the worse...
When we told them we were pregnant they were excited, we weren't married yet, but they didn't seem bothered by that at all, after all they do have an 8yr old granddaughter from their oldest son's past relationship. We decided to move up the wedding date and had a simple jp wedding and a barbque at my parents house, it was agreed that both sides of the family would just split the cost of the reception/barbque so my inlaws part was $500, well as of today they have yet to pay my parents back .. and i get nagged about it all the time by my parents, but my husband can't seem to get the money from them (and i know what you are thinkin' maybe they don't have the money.. nope not the case at all, they have more than enough money to share)... so this is where it all seems to begin....
so the 8 yr old granddaughter visits about twice a year usually about 2 weeks around christmas time, and then 2-3 months in the summer.. well my mother in law all of a sudden decided that the granddaughter needed her own room at grandma's house.. so now after 8 years she needs her own room?? when she's expecting yet another grandchild?? this had me worried... she seems to idolize this granddaughter.. more pictures of her up in the house than of her own kids.. seriously...
so moving along, so my son was born in november and things seemed ok... we would try our best to visit and let them see their grandson and they seemed interested but yet they would never take the time to call us or stop by and see him we had to bring my son to them... so then easter comes and the granddaughter is able to come and visit for a few days.. well let me just sum it up like this... they buy this lil' girl the world.. anything she ask for she gets.. its getting to the point where its unbearable to watch or hear what they get her.. they pay for her plane ticket to fly down here, they buy here tons of clothes when she visits, toys etc... its never ends... they even pay her medical insurance?? i mean come on.. she does have a mommy and daddy with a job, just because they aren't together doesn't mean they can't support their child..
they don't buy my son anything.. NOTHING.. it really hurts to see them do so much for the granddaughter and nothing for their grandson... my son just recently had major reconstructive surgery on his foot and my MIL stopped by for like 10 min to visit with a plant? she bought my 7 month old son a plant??
i'm really at a loss for with everything that is going on here. there's more to this story.. my husband just says we don't need their stupid charity.. but i'm more worried about having to explain to my son why his cousin gets more than he does and why his cousin who doesnt even live in the same town/state as he does has her own room at grandmas..
when we do visit.. my mil barely spends 5 min of time with him.. its like she doesnt wanna be around him..
she now has 3 grandkids and she still only buys for one.. what do you do in this kinda situation? i really feel that my MIL thinks that her granddaughter is her daughter....
i want my husband to talk to them and tell them if they can't treat all the grand kids equally then don't expect to see your grandson very often because we don't want him to be around that... he really would rather not say anything and just cut them out of our lives ... its really hard.. i feel i've worked really hard to try to keep us apart of the family but they are the ones running away from us..
HELP!!! *edited only because i accidentally didn't put the long rant under the cut.. sorry