I have a difficult mom too, and I'm pretty sure I can understand where you're coming from.
I wish I had something useful to say, besides that the best thing you can do is try your best to not take things she says personally, even if they might hurt or be unfair and insensitive-- it's her problem if she can't accept you, anyway. So I guess what I'm basically suggesting is to just "grin and bear it"-- don't supress what you feel, but respond calmly and levelheadedly, appeal to her interests when you can, and never give her honest reason to say hurtful things (not that anyone REALLY has the right to be like that either way, but either way..) It has to be hard to deal with because maybe there is a part of you that understands that it is important to have a healthy relationship with a parent, but another part that feels like you deserve just treatment.. if you can appeal ot both in a civilized and patient manner, things may improve. Or at least, not reach an intolerable point
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I really don't know what to do when I get into one of those moods, I can't hold back all my anger in anyway and I really can't sit there and "listen" to her. All I can do is run away and scream and break things. It's horrible. She's the only person in the entire world that makes me that way and I have no way to stop myself.
But once again thank you, it was nice to hear some actual useful things from someone :) everyone else just tells me to suck it up and move on. haha. I'll see you tomorrow, and again.. thankyouthankyouthankyou.
"yo muddah, skrew yo narsty plans fo' muh lyf n'shiiiit. I lyk wat I do an' who I does it wif. Yo monkey ass cain't stop mah, and you best buh-lieve dat you ain't gonna stop me.
Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooo."
And like that, you'll get sent off to military school. Just bear with her. You'll have to get her to understand you eventually. Just don't do it the harsh way. Or something so outlandish that it looks like a desperate girl with no way out.
No bad thoughts. Because I'm digging for gnaaaaaaaaaves.
i love you so much olivia!! im sorry :((((i lovee youu for real!! soo much!!! i hope things get better with your mom!! tonight was soo funn and i love you soo much boo<333
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I wish I had something useful to say, besides that the best thing you can do is try your best to not take things she says personally, even if they might hurt or be unfair and insensitive-- it's her problem if she can't accept you, anyway. So I guess what I'm basically suggesting is to just "grin and bear it"-- don't supress what you feel, but respond calmly and levelheadedly, appeal to her interests when you can, and never give her honest reason to say hurtful things (not that anyone REALLY has the right to be like that either way, but either way..) It has to be hard to deal with because maybe there is a part of you that understands that it is important to have a healthy relationship with a parent, but another part that feels like you deserve just treatment.. if you can appeal ot both in a civilized and patient manner, things may improve. Or at least, not reach an intolerable point ( ... )
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I really don't know what to do when I get into one of those moods, I can't hold back all my anger in anyway and I really can't sit there and "listen" to her. All I can do is run away and scream and break things. It's horrible. She's the only person in the entire world that makes me that way and I have no way to stop myself.
But once again thank you, it was nice to hear some actual useful things from someone :) everyone else just tells me to suck it up and move on.
haha.
I'll see you tomorrow, and again..
thankyouthankyouthankyou.
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or hit her in the face.
ha.
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hahah.
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"yo muddah, skrew yo narsty plans fo' muh lyf n'shiiiit.
I lyk wat I do an' who I does it wif. Yo monkey ass cain't stop mah, and you best buh-lieve dat you ain't gonna stop me.
Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooo."
And like that, you'll get sent off to military school.
Just bear with her.
You'll have to get her to understand you eventually.
Just don't do it the harsh way.
Or something so outlandish that it looks like a desperate girl with no way out.
No bad thoughts.
Because I'm digging for gnaaaaaaaaaves.
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