It's understandable to want people to see and expect more of your personality and innerworkings and wonderfulisms, but it's unreasonable to expect them to do so. The self is a very complicated thing. As you yourself say, it is ever changing and evolving, and while it may be frustrating to know that people have such a narrow view of you, it makes it possible for them to have any view of you at all. If you can't set the concept of someone up to be packaged, then how would you store it at all?
The thing is, the more people hang out with you (or anyone)and get to know/like you, the more space they have in which to put your essence. Get it? Your close friends can understand you more, because they have more of you imprented in their heads. Like a backup copy that is updated everytime they meet you.
The bottom line is that assumptions must be made for basic survival.
Now, it's here where you get into self-view that is a most healthy line of discussion. The most important person to get to know in your entire life is your own self. Most people never do this unfortunatly. There's a door to the universe sitting right there, but harly anyone ever opens it. They usually just stack boxes of old clothes and family pictures in front of it, mistakenly regarding it as some useless thing.
When I was in counceling, my counseler told me that I understood myself perfectly. It was something I had never thought about, but since then I have used this concept and gained great power. The self is not random and sporatic. It's something you can see within, and it's something that can be understood. I know exactly where I am now AND I know exactly where I'm headed. It is often the barrier of language and expression tha bars the way.
You know, when I tell people that I reached enlightenment over the summer, I mean it. Now, I'm not saying I've reached the final stage of enlightenment (because that's how it seemes to work, at least for me, this summer was probably the 4th stage), that's probably at death, but still I have an overwhemlming feeling of understanding at nearly all times.
I think we both could benifit from more conversation along this line.
yes, ASAP. You, me, and anyone else who has an interest in discussing this, and especially in hearing your advice... Blackbird? The lawn? In the magnolia tree by the fountain? When? No alcohol or drugs allowed, its gonna be confusing enough.
The thing is, the more people hang out with you (or anyone)and get to know/like you, the more space they have in which to put your essence. Get it? Your close friends can understand you more, because they have more of you imprented in their heads. Like a backup copy that is updated everytime they meet you.
The bottom line is that assumptions must be made for basic survival.
Now, it's here where you get into self-view that is a most healthy line of discussion. The most important person to get to know in your entire life is your own self. Most people never do this unfortunatly. There's a door to the universe sitting right there, but harly anyone ever opens it. They usually just stack boxes of old clothes and family pictures in front of it, mistakenly regarding it as some useless thing.
When I was in counceling, my counseler told me that I understood myself perfectly. It was something I had never thought about, but since then I have used this concept and gained great power. The self is not random and sporatic. It's something you can see within, and it's something that can be understood. I know exactly where I am now AND I know exactly where I'm headed. It is often the barrier of language and expression tha bars the way.
You know, when I tell people that I reached enlightenment over the summer, I mean it. Now, I'm not saying I've reached the final stage of enlightenment (because that's how it seemes to work, at least for me, this summer was probably the 4th stage), that's probably at death, but still I have an overwhemlming feeling of understanding at nearly all times.
I think we both could benifit from more conversation along this line.
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Blackbird? The lawn? In the magnolia tree by the fountain? When? No alcohol or drugs allowed, its gonna be confusing enough.
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