If you are a dude, you don't have to read this, but
if you do please maybe help me out and try not to think too low of me.
So here's the thing: I cannot deal with boys! This is a recent revelation to me, but nonetheless a pertinent one that I would like some help with (from y'all?) Like, yes, I have a boyfriend, but this is a broader picture (although that fact will come into play in a moment or so, keep a-readin')
In the past four days, TWO boys have managed to wrangle my number. One of whom I gave it to via facebook (maybe a bad choice to begin with?) and the other got it from his friend. Both of them want to "hang out some time". Both of them seem nice enough, although one is apparently a pretty skeevy person, according to eyewitness accounts (my suitemate). EITHER WAY THOUGH, here's the thing: I don't know at ALL what to do in these situations! I've never been on a date, or even really a "hang out". I've never been asked to do such a thing, I've never had a relationship with someone who I wasn't primarily good friends with first. And frankly, I've grown to like my system. It works, it ensure that the people are good people, and also I don't feel so not in control. What is going on?
One o' dem called today to get food but I was busy anyway (but I can't be busy forever!) And I just texted the other one telling him I'd like to hang out and play music sometime. But I don't really! I'm pretty scared of both of these potential situations!
If someone could inform me on how to be a normal girl, I would really appreciate it. I'm pretty good at being friends with boys and I enjoy the company of boys who are friends very much, and maybe even like, flirting with some of them, but when it gets down to the possibility of one-on-one conversation, I'm like, terrified.
And TO ADD ANOTHER TATER TO THE POT, I have a boyfriend! But it's not like either of them asked for my hand in marriage, so I can't exactly be like "oh yeah hanging out cool butjustsoyouknowI'mspokenforalready". I'm being terribly irrational and anxious about stuff that hasn't even happened yet, but I'm just totally unaware of how to deal with these kinds of situations in a manner that isn't painful for everyone involved. Oops!
So here's the thing: I cannot deal with boys! This is a recent revelation to me, but nonetheless a pertinent one that I would like some help with (from y'all?) Like, yes, I have a boyfriend, but this is a broader picture (although that fact will come into play in a moment or so, keep a-readin')
In the past four days, TWO boys have managed to wrangle my number. One of whom I gave it to via facebook (maybe a bad choice to begin with?) and the other got it from his friend. Both of them want to "hang out some time". Both of them seem nice enough, although one is apparently a pretty skeevy person, according to eyewitness accounts (my suitemate). EITHER WAY THOUGH, here's the thing: I don't know at ALL what to do in these situations! I've never been on a date, or even really a "hang out". I've never been asked to do such a thing, I've never had a relationship with someone who I wasn't primarily good friends with first. And frankly, I've grown to like my system. It works, it ensure that the people are good people, and also I don't feel so not in control. What is going on?
One o' dem called today to get food but I was busy anyway (but I can't be busy forever!) And I just texted the other one telling him I'd like to hang out and play music sometime. But I don't really! I'm pretty scared of both of these potential situations!
If someone could inform me on how to be a normal girl, I would really appreciate it. I'm pretty good at being friends with boys and I enjoy the company of boys who are friends very much, and maybe even like, flirting with some of them, but when it gets down to the possibility of one-on-one conversation, I'm like, terrified.
And TO ADD ANOTHER TATER TO THE POT, I have a boyfriend! But it's not like either of them asked for my hand in marriage, so I can't exactly be like "oh yeah hanging out cool butjustsoyouknowI'mspokenforalready". I'm being terribly irrational and anxious about stuff that hasn't even happened yet, but I'm just totally unaware of how to deal with these kinds of situations in a manner that isn't painful for everyone involved. Oops!