Ahhh, see, now that you reveal more of the details, it's clear he's not innocent in the game-playing either. The good news is that you get the opportunity to call the shots and be the smart healthy one.
Believe me, I know all about saying things I'm not sure I mean just to get a response, any response, out of someone. As we both probably know, the consequences are rarely what we're looking for or intend. You two are dancing a strange dance, for sure. Visiting for a week, wanting to share a bed, jealousy, declarations that there are no other girls? Sure, friends do that, but usually there is something else, at least some other stronger undertones going on. I shared a bed with a "friend" a long time ago and could never catch a minute of sleep because the three inches that separated us was maddening.
I humbly suggest you take some time, as hard as it will be, and see if you can't revisit a more healthy friendship with him down the road. One that has clearer boundaries and fewer expectations that are more relative to intimate relationships than fun friendships.
p.s. would you agree with me about my assumption on someone leaving a message in the morning only if they had been thinking about it all night? or am i being paranoid?
Believe me, I know all about saying things I'm not sure I mean just to get a response, any response, out of someone. As we both probably know, the consequences are rarely what we're looking for or intend. You two are dancing a strange dance, for sure. Visiting for a week, wanting to share a bed, jealousy, declarations that there are no other girls? Sure, friends do that, but usually there is something else, at least some other stronger undertones going on. I shared a bed with a "friend" a long time ago and could never catch a minute of sleep because the three inches that separated us was maddening.
I humbly suggest you take some time, as hard as it will be, and see if you can't revisit a more healthy friendship with him down the road. One that has clearer boundaries and fewer expectations that are more relative to intimate relationships than fun friendships.
Take care!
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would you agree with me about my assumption on someone leaving a message in the morning only if they had been thinking about it all night? or am i being paranoid?
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