obviously i have no idea of your circumstances, but while i'm sympathetic to your feelings i'm sure you're aware just how much your desires will hurt your boyfriend because you're essentially asking him to wait with nearly no certainty that you will return to him. if you really want to test the waters so to speak i advise you to be very careful with your diction selection during your conversation with your boyfriend and fully understand that you can only axe the relationship and return to it likely months or years down the road, with equal uncertainty of whether he will have moved on or how your relationship may change even if you decide to go back to him. it would take some kind of guy to be willing to wait for you without feeling somewhat hurt or distrustful.
it's obviously a very sensitive topic and one that i think you need to approach with more thought depending on how long you've had these feelings, no matter how intense or unhappy they are currently. being unfulfilled/not satisfied with your current relationship and being afraid of commitment are wholly different things. just because your boyfriend has done "nothing wrong" as you said does not necessarily mean that you are completely fulfilled with your relationship. you could very well be "settling with what works" (which my friend has done without any visible regret) which is just fine, but if you really desire more than you need to first affirm what you're looking for if you're planning to go out with other people. if you're just looking for more intense emotions in a relationship then you may get it initially due to novelty, but it is hard to say how long they'll last and two years down the road you may find yourself in the same position as you are now. likewise if you are seeking some sort of nebulous or unrealistic quality you may have to look through many other partners. however if you have concrete wants and needs and qualities that your relationship currently does not have and your boyfriend cannot provide then wanting to see what else is out there is completely justifiable.
whatever you decide i wish you the best, just give it a lot of thought as it is a tough decision given how long you two have been going out. it is ultimately up to you to decide just what it is you're seeking in your ideal partner and ideal relationship.
We were about to take a break and he was driving back home. 20 minutes later and I told him to turn back. The thought just sounds so nice but when it actually happens, I realize that I need him. I couldn't stand the thought that of having all these future events to look forward to and not have him be there. You're right. I'm sure it's just the thought of having that new happy feeling of liking someone which only ends up to be temporary. Other than that, he's everything I want in a person. I consider him my other half. My friends all love him and agree he's pretty much the perfect man. :)
it's obviously a very sensitive topic and one that i think you need to approach with more thought depending on how long you've had these feelings, no matter how intense or unhappy they are currently. being unfulfilled/not satisfied with your current relationship and being afraid of commitment are wholly different things. just because your boyfriend has done "nothing wrong" as you said does not necessarily mean that you are completely fulfilled with your relationship. you could very well be "settling with what works" (which my friend has done without any visible regret) which is just fine, but if you really desire more than you need to first affirm what you're looking for if you're planning to go out with other people. if you're just looking for more intense emotions in a relationship then you may get it initially due to novelty, but it is hard to say how long they'll last and two years down the road you may find yourself in the same position as you are now. likewise if you are seeking some sort of nebulous or unrealistic quality you may have to look through many other partners. however if you have concrete wants and needs and qualities that your relationship currently does not have and your boyfriend cannot provide then wanting to see what else is out there is completely justifiable.
whatever you decide i wish you the best, just give it a lot of thought as it is a tough decision given how long you two have been going out. it is ultimately up to you to decide just what it is you're seeking in your ideal partner and ideal relationship.
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