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Everyday my confidence level drops a little more. I feel like it has become so hard for a young woman to grow up in this world and find beauty in herself.
The world has created this idea that in order to be beautiful you must 1) have a gorgeous face, 2) have a huge rack 3) have a tiny little waist that can only be obtained through starving yourself 4) and make sure to show it off in just the right measure.
Now is that really possible?
They portraiy these images everywhere that in order to be attractive to anyone you have to look similar to a victoria's secret model.
and you have to maintain this image until the day you die or your husband (if you can even get one) will cheat.
It has become impossible to attend a movie (that wasn't produced by disney) without having to see some awkward sex scene with some anorexic blondes fake boobies bouncing around. And i sit there and wonder, is that what i'm supposed to look like? Is that the standard of beauty that I have to try to achieve? Because i can work out and i can try and make myself better, but at the end of the day, i am left with what God gave me and he definitely did not give me that type of body.
How can anyone be expected to compete with these women? You can't avoid it, either. no matter where you turn, this model of the "perfect woman" is thrown in your face. Nudity is now suddenly acceptable in popular fashion magazines. Can you honestly think that i would look at that, and then feel better about myself?
I flipped open my dad's GQ magazine and there was an article entitled "It's not cheating if....". It was all about the thin line between cheating and not cheating.
"5% of men are satisfied with their wives."
"No matter what, he's eventually going to need to get laid."
"Porn is not cheating. An occasional lap dance is not cheating."
"A purely physical relationship is not cheating. It's only cheating if it becomes emotionally involved."
And you wonder why girls have trust issues?
Things like The Man Show, The Alphabet of Manliness, and the countless other things that portray the pathetic pigginess of men are what we have to live by. And this is what men look up to?
You expect your woman to look like a 20 year old Victoria's secret model until the day she dies. You expect her to keep that perfect figure after she has children? You expect her to constantly desire to have sex with you? And yet, what are giving back to her? You are not setting high standards for yourself. You want to sit on your butt, drink beer, stare at hooters on the computer, and play poker with your equally pathetic guy friends while she meets all your needs?
Are you kidding me?
Maybe the media has put pressure on men to better themselves, but I haven't seen it.
You go to the women's section of the magazines and beautiful women are on the covers. You go the men's sections of the magazines and young teens dressed in scantily clad outfits are on the covers. Girls have their ladies night (or day) and spend it shopping, talking over lunch, getting manicures. Men have their guys night and hit up the strip clubs and get wasted over a game of poker.
It will never be possible for a man in a relationship to justify watching porn, in my opinion. The message that your girlfriend gets is that she is not good enough. You will only be satisfied by staring at a woman that is far better looking with a far better body. In order to be happy, you need another woman...in your mind, a better woman.
More often than not, your woman is satisfied with you just as you are......well, if you dropped the porn addiction.
I hate to dissappoint the men, but that pornstar girl that you are lusting over doesn't exist. I'm assuming her body was perfected by a plastic surgeon and some good computer technology. And any woman that enjoys sexual promiscuity like that has mental issues. She doesn't want you. She doesn' t love you. She doesn't exist. So don't expect your girlfriends to live up to standards that are impossible to achieve naturally.
And all of this mess has seemed to make men believe that women are here to meet their needs. Guys continually use girls because they know they can get away with it. It seems like most guys have just stopped trying to be gentleman. Does anyone go on a real date anymore? One where he picks the girl up and they have a nice dinner and go to a movie? Or are the girls just getting in the back of his car and he won't call her in three weeks? Seriously, what's happened? Is that how you want your future daughter treated? And girls, stop letting guys get away with murder. You deserve so much more than that.
I don't know why I wrote this. This year I have just struggled with self esteem and walking out that door into a world so obsessed with sex is really hard at times. But don't get me wrong, I know that there are some amazing guys out there (like my boyfriend). Men that respect their girlfriends. I do not believe chivalry is completely dead. I just think it's endangered.
The world has created this idea that in order to be beautiful you must 1) have a gorgeous face, 2) have a huge rack 3) have a tiny little waist that can only be obtained through starving yourself 4) and make sure to show it off in just the right measure.
Now is that really possible?
They portraiy these images everywhere that in order to be attractive to anyone you have to look similar to a victoria's secret model.
and you have to maintain this image until the day you die or your husband (if you can even get one) will cheat.
It has become impossible to attend a movie (that wasn't produced by disney) without having to see some awkward sex scene with some anorexic blondes fake boobies bouncing around. And i sit there and wonder, is that what i'm supposed to look like? Is that the standard of beauty that I have to try to achieve? Because i can work out and i can try and make myself better, but at the end of the day, i am left with what God gave me and he definitely did not give me that type of body.
How can anyone be expected to compete with these women? You can't avoid it, either. no matter where you turn, this model of the "perfect woman" is thrown in your face. Nudity is now suddenly acceptable in popular fashion magazines. Can you honestly think that i would look at that, and then feel better about myself?
I flipped open my dad's GQ magazine and there was an article entitled "It's not cheating if....". It was all about the thin line between cheating and not cheating.
"5% of men are satisfied with their wives."
"No matter what, he's eventually going to need to get laid."
"Porn is not cheating. An occasional lap dance is not cheating."
"A purely physical relationship is not cheating. It's only cheating if it becomes emotionally involved."
And you wonder why girls have trust issues?
Things like The Man Show, The Alphabet of Manliness, and the countless other things that portray the pathetic pigginess of men are what we have to live by. And this is what men look up to?
You expect your woman to look like a 20 year old Victoria's secret model until the day she dies. You expect her to keep that perfect figure after she has children? You expect her to constantly desire to have sex with you? And yet, what are giving back to her? You are not setting high standards for yourself. You want to sit on your butt, drink beer, stare at hooters on the computer, and play poker with your equally pathetic guy friends while she meets all your needs?
Are you kidding me?
Maybe the media has put pressure on men to better themselves, but I haven't seen it.
You go to the women's section of the magazines and beautiful women are on the covers. You go the men's sections of the magazines and young teens dressed in scantily clad outfits are on the covers. Girls have their ladies night (or day) and spend it shopping, talking over lunch, getting manicures. Men have their guys night and hit up the strip clubs and get wasted over a game of poker.
It will never be possible for a man in a relationship to justify watching porn, in my opinion. The message that your girlfriend gets is that she is not good enough. You will only be satisfied by staring at a woman that is far better looking with a far better body. In order to be happy, you need another woman...in your mind, a better woman.
More often than not, your woman is satisfied with you just as you are......well, if you dropped the porn addiction.
I hate to dissappoint the men, but that pornstar girl that you are lusting over doesn't exist. I'm assuming her body was perfected by a plastic surgeon and some good computer technology. And any woman that enjoys sexual promiscuity like that has mental issues. She doesn't want you. She doesn' t love you. She doesn't exist. So don't expect your girlfriends to live up to standards that are impossible to achieve naturally.
And all of this mess has seemed to make men believe that women are here to meet their needs. Guys continually use girls because they know they can get away with it. It seems like most guys have just stopped trying to be gentleman. Does anyone go on a real date anymore? One where he picks the girl up and they have a nice dinner and go to a movie? Or are the girls just getting in the back of his car and he won't call her in three weeks? Seriously, what's happened? Is that how you want your future daughter treated? And girls, stop letting guys get away with murder. You deserve so much more than that.
I don't know why I wrote this. This year I have just struggled with self esteem and walking out that door into a world so obsessed with sex is really hard at times. But don't get me wrong, I know that there are some amazing guys out there (like my boyfriend). Men that respect their girlfriends. I do not believe chivalry is completely dead. I just think it's endangered.