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somebody posted on my friendster bulletin board... and i dunno what to say. i feel like she's talking to me but i know she's not... ok so here it is
I just don't get it why people nowadays give so
much importance on having a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Well, well well. So what's this topic all about huh?
First off I want to clear here that I am NOT a
female chauvinist or sexist, manhater or whatever
you call it. Reality bites. And based on my
experiences as well no matter how you guys argue
with me I know I have my grounds for saying such
things, so...
Not a manhater, and I can't be LOL. Majority of my
friends are guys. And duh?! I've been in 3 serious
relationships already. Longest was the one with
my last boyfriend, Rhyl (read my previous post and
you'll have a lil clue on what happened lol). It's just
so disappointing in the end when you get to your
senses and you realize that you just wasted too
much time, effort, emotions, and the worst thing
that can happen to anyone is to have your ego and
self esteem crushed by some sh*tty ass jerky guys
that's not even worth all of the sacrifices that you
made. Sad isn't it? But as what I always say,
welcome to the real world Sheens. You don't
expect people to treat you the way that you wanna
be treated. In this world where being ungodly is
more favorable you should learn how to stand on
your own when the world turn its back against you.
Don't expect peopl to do things for you. Learn how
to be independent and how to get up from a fall.
Admittedly, it took me some time before I was
able to get up.
For the past two years that I've been single my not-
so-happy past was able to serve as a lesson to
me for me to be a better person, and serve as my
friends' confidant whenever they seek me for
advise. So far, people have been asking me lately
how was I able to survive such experience that
they don't even think that a girl can handle such
thing specially at my young age at that time (I was
18-20) and do I survive being single for quite
some time already. The answer is simple, avoid
commiting the same old mistakes. And man, life is
too short to be wasted don't you think? Admittedly,
I used to stay at one corner and cry my ass off for
months but it just ended up making me feel more
miserable and sorry for myself.
And so if I'm all alone in Toronto? What's the big
deal if he left me and took me for granted despite
of the fact that I sacrificed half of my life just to be
with him, moving out from the place where I grew
up just to go to a foreign land where I don't even
know anyone except for the jerk who made me cry,
abused me, and used me. Learning how to stand
on my own as my talent helped me somehow, but
can't blame me if sometimes I feel sorry for myself
every now and then knowing the fact that I don't
have that much friends to run to and cry my ass off
and I end up spending $1000 just on long distance
calls. HAHA. There's no use feeling sorry for
myself. I have to live my life the way I want it to be.
With or without that asshole I said to myself.
Technically, I've been single for two years, but it
was just last month when I realized that there's so
much time to be spend on things that are more
worthwhile than trying to work on someone who's
not even being truthful to you. Harsh truth.
And on being single for two years, another set of
questions that people usually asks, "How can you
survive without companionship? The intimacy
part? Pare hindi ba lahat ng babae they need their
knights in shining armour?" The answer is simple:
How can I commit myself to someone when I can't
even commit myself to be single? And how can I
be in a relationship if just expect other people to
take care of me? Before entering a relationship,
you should know how to take care of yourself, thus
knowing how others want to be taken of as well.
Companionship issue? Well, I have my friends to
keep me company at times. And ey, being alone
every now and then is healthy as well. And yes
according to survey 90% of women want
companionship and all thus ending up getting a
boyfriend, but cmon the main reason why you
commit yourself to someone is because you love
that person right? Not just because you want
your own knight in shining armour.
Going back to my previous statement, you have to
learn how to take care of yourself before
commiting so that you know how your boyfriend
wants to be treated as well! It's just so funny that
although I just turned 21 last month people do get
shocked that I don't have a boyfriend, and they
make it sound like it is a MUST for girls, specially
at my age to have one. LIKE DUH?! I'm not even
planning on getting married yet, and how can I
plan those things when I haven't met my GB yet?
(God's best) It is better to wait for HIM rather than
waste so much effort, time, money etc. to
someone who's not even close to the word best
don't you think?
So please. No need to rush things. I'm not being a
hard to get girl here. I just believe that a guy, if he's
really so much into a girl that he really loves (trust
me girls on this one) HE WOULD DO ANYTHING
JUST FOR THAT GIRL. He would respect the girl
and at the same time give his best shot,
why? 'Coz he sure wants to bring home the bacon.
That simple. Even if the girl tells him to give her
some time and all no matter what happens IF HES
REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT YOU THEN HE
WOULD RESPECT YOUR DECISION AND WAIT
FOR YOU! Every girl wants to meet a guy who can
sweep them off their feet, and all I can say is the
wait is all worth it for that guy. No need to waste
your time and energy to some jerks and asswipes.
And ofcourse, each and everyone of us is GB in
the making. I know mine's somewhere out there
still looking for me. Ey I don't do the looking, guys
do the looking. They look for ME. HAHA! I am a
God's best in the making. Although most people
think that I am too good to be true at times,
specially whenever they find out that I don't smoke,
drink and do drugs (YES I am very much proud of
these things) I know there's still room for
improvement and humans aren't created to be
prefect. Incase you don't know I am veryy moody at
times. Even Keanu Reeves, he may have
everything but man, hes gay! You see the picture
here?
Lastly, learn how to be a cosmopolitan girl, errr I
mean being independent. Whether you're a guy or
a girl reading this I hope you get something from
this. *Allan I swear I owe you for calling me a
cosmopolitan girl. HAHAHA* Well, that's it for now.
=)
ps: it's kinda long... but was worth the read
I just don't get it why people nowadays give so
much importance on having a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Well, well well. So what's this topic all about huh?
First off I want to clear here that I am NOT a
female chauvinist or sexist, manhater or whatever
you call it. Reality bites. And based on my
experiences as well no matter how you guys argue
with me I know I have my grounds for saying such
things, so...
Not a manhater, and I can't be LOL. Majority of my
friends are guys. And duh?! I've been in 3 serious
relationships already. Longest was the one with
my last boyfriend, Rhyl (read my previous post and
you'll have a lil clue on what happened lol). It's just
so disappointing in the end when you get to your
senses and you realize that you just wasted too
much time, effort, emotions, and the worst thing
that can happen to anyone is to have your ego and
self esteem crushed by some sh*tty ass jerky guys
that's not even worth all of the sacrifices that you
made. Sad isn't it? But as what I always say,
welcome to the real world Sheens. You don't
expect people to treat you the way that you wanna
be treated. In this world where being ungodly is
more favorable you should learn how to stand on
your own when the world turn its back against you.
Don't expect peopl to do things for you. Learn how
to be independent and how to get up from a fall.
Admittedly, it took me some time before I was
able to get up.
For the past two years that I've been single my not-
so-happy past was able to serve as a lesson to
me for me to be a better person, and serve as my
friends' confidant whenever they seek me for
advise. So far, people have been asking me lately
how was I able to survive such experience that
they don't even think that a girl can handle such
thing specially at my young age at that time (I was
18-20) and do I survive being single for quite
some time already. The answer is simple, avoid
commiting the same old mistakes. And man, life is
too short to be wasted don't you think? Admittedly,
I used to stay at one corner and cry my ass off for
months but it just ended up making me feel more
miserable and sorry for myself.
And so if I'm all alone in Toronto? What's the big
deal if he left me and took me for granted despite
of the fact that I sacrificed half of my life just to be
with him, moving out from the place where I grew
up just to go to a foreign land where I don't even
know anyone except for the jerk who made me cry,
abused me, and used me. Learning how to stand
on my own as my talent helped me somehow, but
can't blame me if sometimes I feel sorry for myself
every now and then knowing the fact that I don't
have that much friends to run to and cry my ass off
and I end up spending $1000 just on long distance
calls. HAHA. There's no use feeling sorry for
myself. I have to live my life the way I want it to be.
With or without that asshole I said to myself.
Technically, I've been single for two years, but it
was just last month when I realized that there's so
much time to be spend on things that are more
worthwhile than trying to work on someone who's
not even being truthful to you. Harsh truth.
And on being single for two years, another set of
questions that people usually asks, "How can you
survive without companionship? The intimacy
part? Pare hindi ba lahat ng babae they need their
knights in shining armour?" The answer is simple:
How can I commit myself to someone when I can't
even commit myself to be single? And how can I
be in a relationship if just expect other people to
take care of me? Before entering a relationship,
you should know how to take care of yourself, thus
knowing how others want to be taken of as well.
Companionship issue? Well, I have my friends to
keep me company at times. And ey, being alone
every now and then is healthy as well. And yes
according to survey 90% of women want
companionship and all thus ending up getting a
boyfriend, but cmon the main reason why you
commit yourself to someone is because you love
that person right? Not just because you want
your own knight in shining armour.
Going back to my previous statement, you have to
learn how to take care of yourself before
commiting so that you know how your boyfriend
wants to be treated as well! It's just so funny that
although I just turned 21 last month people do get
shocked that I don't have a boyfriend, and they
make it sound like it is a MUST for girls, specially
at my age to have one. LIKE DUH?! I'm not even
planning on getting married yet, and how can I
plan those things when I haven't met my GB yet?
(God's best) It is better to wait for HIM rather than
waste so much effort, time, money etc. to
someone who's not even close to the word best
don't you think?
So please. No need to rush things. I'm not being a
hard to get girl here. I just believe that a guy, if he's
really so much into a girl that he really loves (trust
me girls on this one) HE WOULD DO ANYTHING
JUST FOR THAT GIRL. He would respect the girl
and at the same time give his best shot,
why? 'Coz he sure wants to bring home the bacon.
That simple. Even if the girl tells him to give her
some time and all no matter what happens IF HES
REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT YOU THEN HE
WOULD RESPECT YOUR DECISION AND WAIT
FOR YOU! Every girl wants to meet a guy who can
sweep them off their feet, and all I can say is the
wait is all worth it for that guy. No need to waste
your time and energy to some jerks and asswipes.
And ofcourse, each and everyone of us is GB in
the making. I know mine's somewhere out there
still looking for me. Ey I don't do the looking, guys
do the looking. They look for ME. HAHA! I am a
God's best in the making. Although most people
think that I am too good to be true at times,
specially whenever they find out that I don't smoke,
drink and do drugs (YES I am very much proud of
these things) I know there's still room for
improvement and humans aren't created to be
prefect. Incase you don't know I am veryy moody at
times. Even Keanu Reeves, he may have
everything but man, hes gay! You see the picture
here?
Lastly, learn how to be a cosmopolitan girl, errr I
mean being independent. Whether you're a guy or
a girl reading this I hope you get something from
this. *Allan I swear I owe you for calling me a
cosmopolitan girl. HAHAHA* Well, that's it for now.
=)
ps: it's kinda long... but was worth the read