this is going to sound conceited no matter which way i put it, so bear in mind that I AM NOT IN THE SLIGHTEST. anyway, i seriously need help with letting members of the opposite sex know that i am not interested in them. i can't do it! i can't turn guys down. i like to keep feelings intact, what can i say. example: this guy keeps calling and
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The biggest favor you can do someone who's pursuing you is to, as soon as you figure out what's going on, just tell them very practically and politely. "Look, it seems like you keep calling me because you're interested in a relationship with me. I'm sorry, but I'm really not interested in a relationship with you." Encouraging them that you're sure they'll find someone because they're nice/attractive/hot/whatever is always nice, too, if you can say that without lying to them.
Remember that getting a shot is a good thing even though it stings for a second.
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anyway, thank you, i know this advice is probably the best. xo.
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Besides, it's not the ULTIMATE REJECTION... it's just one girl saying look, you seem really nice and attractive, but I really am not looking for a relationship with you.
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Remember, as the girl, "traditionally" you get pursued, not the other way around. Confusion about whether or not a guy is interested is a lot easier to handle when you can do it passively, just lying around wondering what's going on in his mind blah blah blah. The guy has to be actively trying to romance you, get your attention, whatever. Being confused about what to do next and why what he's doing isn't working is a LOT more difficult.
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if you don't just tell him honestly, then you're just like EVERY OTHER FUCKING GIRL ON THE PLANET, which is only true to the extent of my poor experience
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( was that dramatic enough? :] )
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i'm going to be living in chicago this summer! ! !
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if i'm here we should hang out!
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