this is what I think....
i think that cultivating a relationship, or should i say "friendship", with an ex is a very rare thing.
it usually never works out.
I believe that if they fucked you over in some way it proves that they would just fuck you over in life. or prove to be a jack ass, in your point of view.
example:
my ex,DJ, who i despise, IMs me every now and then outta the blue. since it's only over the internet, i say hey and ask how he is doing,and we chit chat a bit, but he alway's manages to say these three things: when is the next time you are in gainesville? when you are in town, call me. and..so, you seeing some guy?????
and i always say,"I hardly ever go to gainesville, so prolly not anytime soon. um,you call me if you want to hang out,maybe with like heather and high school friends, but i'm not going to frat parties. and...been with my boyfriend for over a year", or at the time, however long i've been with him. and i say how very happy i am. and about a minute later he is like "ok, gotta go. we'll catch up later." ..and that's it.jack ASSS.
so, to me, this proves that my ex wants one thing and one thing only, and it is something he can never ever have. what an Asshole...with a capital A.
so, my hypothesis with all this evidence is: ex's (for the most part) can't ever be friends or a part of your life if they once caused you some sort of problems, because there will always be a sense in them that they have not changed...for the majority, that is. but, like i said, it is pretty rare , in my perspective.
it usually never works out.
I believe that if they fucked you over in some way it proves that they would just fuck you over in life. or prove to be a jack ass, in your point of view.
example:
my ex,DJ, who i despise, IMs me every now and then outta the blue. since it's only over the internet, i say hey and ask how he is doing,and we chit chat a bit, but he alway's manages to say these three things: when is the next time you are in gainesville? when you are in town, call me. and..so, you seeing some guy?????
and i always say,"I hardly ever go to gainesville, so prolly not anytime soon. um,you call me if you want to hang out,maybe with like heather and high school friends, but i'm not going to frat parties. and...been with my boyfriend for over a year", or at the time, however long i've been with him. and i say how very happy i am. and about a minute later he is like "ok, gotta go. we'll catch up later." ..and that's it.jack ASSS.
so, to me, this proves that my ex wants one thing and one thing only, and it is something he can never ever have. what an Asshole...with a capital A.
so, my hypothesis with all this evidence is: ex's (for the most part) can't ever be friends or a part of your life if they once caused you some sort of problems, because there will always be a sense in them that they have not changed...for the majority, that is. but, like i said, it is pretty rare , in my perspective.