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This article explaining how a persons disgust level tells whether they're prone to conservative or liberal world views, touches some points concerning fabricating reasons for disliking people/things, when they do so for a reason they cannot actually explain, which I briefly brushed in this old post that I wrote a few years back. The bigger part of the beginning is some slightly irrelevant minor "ranting" which one may not care for so much perhaps, so I'll place the more relevant part behind the cut. My point, which actually now in retrospect came through not as good as a I remembered it had, is basically that I had come to realise that all those "fattie" "Finnish brat" "swedish bitch" (after moving to Finland) were just make-shift "reasons" for kids to concreticise somehow their un-ease around me which they could not explain. And many continue that legacy through the majority of their adult lives. Very few realise this tendency and figure to unlearn it...which is, very sad indeed.
I've always been basically an optimist, and moving to a new place always gave me hope...I never - even once in my life - had an attitude when moving into new circles in a new place...I never thought that the things I was being put through were my fault, but they were only caught up in the race: being different in some way, was naturally blamed on me by freezing me out, and I used to blame it on others not understanding or even wanting to understand me...but just in the recent years I've realized that it never really was anybody's fault but people just claiming that, only so that the situation with it's what's and why's would be easier to process, and maybe a bit more explicable to them.
So...as I didn't have an attitude, I at one point developed one..always being disappointed noticing everything going exactly as they did in the previous places. But it too disappeared as soon as I got to try again, in a new place.
I guess everything was just somehow sealed on my appearance, which then again lead to me not getting out of the bad circle. (addition: or basically I was just a "freak" because of my neurological miswiring which lead people to shun me and develop these "reasons" as mentioned earlier)
Sometimes I wonder if it's just plain naivety, believing that everything'll turn out to be somehow better just by changing environment...It's not like I'd be running away from my problems, because it's not MY problem if people don't want to expand their horizon, but only ignore anybody different from them. I don't judge them because I understand it's natural to the human nature to avoid things that differ from what you are used to/comfortable with...because you feel like you can't understand something being so different in some matter, and anything you don't understand frightens you. Naturally everyone isn't like that, but most are.
So by moving around I am not running away from problems, but instead searching (for new problems? :D) for a place where I could feel accepted, even if not necessarily understood.
People basically strive for being understood, but can also bare not being that, if only surrounded by people who are able to accept even if not fully comprehend.
You can always learn to understand, but accepting something you might find obscure...that requires the right attitude
I've always been basically an optimist, and moving to a new place always gave me hope...I never - even once in my life - had an attitude when moving into new circles in a new place...I never thought that the things I was being put through were my fault, but they were only caught up in the race: being different in some way, was naturally blamed on me by freezing me out, and I used to blame it on others not understanding or even wanting to understand me...but just in the recent years I've realized that it never really was anybody's fault but people just claiming that, only so that the situation with it's what's and why's would be easier to process, and maybe a bit more explicable to them.
So...as I didn't have an attitude, I at one point developed one..always being disappointed noticing everything going exactly as they did in the previous places. But it too disappeared as soon as I got to try again, in a new place.
I guess everything was just somehow sealed on my appearance, which then again lead to me not getting out of the bad circle. (addition: or basically I was just a "freak" because of my neurological miswiring which lead people to shun me and develop these "reasons" as mentioned earlier)
Sometimes I wonder if it's just plain naivety, believing that everything'll turn out to be somehow better just by changing environment...It's not like I'd be running away from my problems, because it's not MY problem if people don't want to expand their horizon, but only ignore anybody different from them. I don't judge them because I understand it's natural to the human nature to avoid things that differ from what you are used to/comfortable with...because you feel like you can't understand something being so different in some matter, and anything you don't understand frightens you. Naturally everyone isn't like that, but most are.
So by moving around I am not running away from problems, but instead searching (for new problems? :D) for a place where I could feel accepted, even if not necessarily understood.
People basically strive for being understood, but can also bare not being that, if only surrounded by people who are able to accept even if not fully comprehend.
You can always learn to understand, but accepting something you might find obscure...that requires the right attitude