Dropping back in to make a comment about Steve and Cath
I didn’t watch 4x21 (haven’t watched for months) but I’ve been reading the episode recaps and the comments about Steve finally saying I love you to Cath. They all remind me of why I can’t watch the show anymore and how sexist is the portrayal of female characters on the show.
After all of the years they’ve known each other, Steve finally admits that he loves Cath (easy to do over the phone when she’s thousands of miles away) and given what I’ve read, Cath was thrilled that he finally said something. The thing that bothers me the most is that Cath, a smart, capable, brave and beautiful woman, was willing to put so much effort into a relationship that was obviously going nowhere. She left her career in the Navy to stay in Hawaii (ostensibly to take a new job but we know it was to stay with Steve since she apparently needed his permission to take the job), then later she joined up with Five-0 because obviously she can’t be separated from Steve and can’t get a job on her own.
Steve barely has time for her, never acknowledges his feelings for her (if he actually has any), uses her to find information, makes no commitment of any kind to her, puts little effort into their relationship and has sex with her when it’s convenient for him, and yet she’s stayed with him because she loooves him. Cue soaring violin music here.
The ultimate message the audience is supposed to get from this is that Steve McGarrett is such an amazing man; so god-like, so remarkable, so beautiful and sexy and courageous and perfect, that any woman should be grateful to be in his orbit no matter how he treats her.
No matter how amazing and gorgeous Cath is herself, no matter that any other man would be thrilled to have her and treat her with a hell of a lot more respect than Steve does, she can only be with Steve, grateful for whatever crumbs he offers her because he’s the perfect man and she’s lucky, so very lucky to be allowed near him.
Like Danny, who went from a police officer with integrity and respect for the law to become an apostate of Steve; turning a blind eye to whatever outrageously illegal things Steve does because Steve’s a superior being, we know that Cath too will put aside her happiness, her future and her dreams just to stay near Steve. At least she did until episode 4x21. Frankly, Cath leaving Steve to find and rescue whatever person she was looking for, is the most courageous, most independent, and most female empowering thing Cath (or the show) has ever done. I hope the audience is told a few months into season 5 that she’s found someone else who adores her and she dumps Steve cold.
Sadly I love Steve, probably because Alex gives him some heart and depth, but these sad characterizations are why I can't take the show anymore.
After all of the years they’ve known each other, Steve finally admits that he loves Cath (easy to do over the phone when she’s thousands of miles away) and given what I’ve read, Cath was thrilled that he finally said something. The thing that bothers me the most is that Cath, a smart, capable, brave and beautiful woman, was willing to put so much effort into a relationship that was obviously going nowhere. She left her career in the Navy to stay in Hawaii (ostensibly to take a new job but we know it was to stay with Steve since she apparently needed his permission to take the job), then later she joined up with Five-0 because obviously she can’t be separated from Steve and can’t get a job on her own.
Steve barely has time for her, never acknowledges his feelings for her (if he actually has any), uses her to find information, makes no commitment of any kind to her, puts little effort into their relationship and has sex with her when it’s convenient for him, and yet she’s stayed with him because she loooves him. Cue soaring violin music here.
The ultimate message the audience is supposed to get from this is that Steve McGarrett is such an amazing man; so god-like, so remarkable, so beautiful and sexy and courageous and perfect, that any woman should be grateful to be in his orbit no matter how he treats her.
No matter how amazing and gorgeous Cath is herself, no matter that any other man would be thrilled to have her and treat her with a hell of a lot more respect than Steve does, she can only be with Steve, grateful for whatever crumbs he offers her because he’s the perfect man and she’s lucky, so very lucky to be allowed near him.
Like Danny, who went from a police officer with integrity and respect for the law to become an apostate of Steve; turning a blind eye to whatever outrageously illegal things Steve does because Steve’s a superior being, we know that Cath too will put aside her happiness, her future and her dreams just to stay near Steve. At least she did until episode 4x21. Frankly, Cath leaving Steve to find and rescue whatever person she was looking for, is the most courageous, most independent, and most female empowering thing Cath (or the show) has ever done. I hope the audience is told a few months into season 5 that she’s found someone else who adores her and she dumps Steve cold.
Sadly I love Steve, probably because Alex gives him some heart and depth, but these sad characterizations are why I can't take the show anymore.