A Few Conclusions on Feminism

[4given_follower]

Okay, so I need to start at the beginning of the Feminism adventure...basically Political Science classes.

While I unfortunately don't remember very many specific feminist points, I did realize that a great deal of feminism seemed to oppose the Conservative Christian scene, which I had spent my teenage years absorbed in and adopting. It left me a

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[junkeyfish1]

I know you probably received the comment that I deleted, but it was too convoluted, felt accusatory, and didn't properly convey what I wanted to say, so that's why I got rid of it, not because it isn’t true.

If you didn't get it, though, I'm not trying to beat you up or be rude, I just really want you to know the facts so you can be fully informed as you make decisions for the rest of your life.

But first: "God has given me talents to use and invest with, not to bury."

Um, wow, you just insulted every mother out there who invests her time and gifts into her children, and her world, in ever new and ingenious ways. Having children doesn't mean you give up your talents, or lose or bury them, you just have to be more creative - it forces you to think beyond yourself. And what is more worthwhile than investing your gifts in the next generations, the ones who'll be stuck with the earth in whatever condition we leave it behind?

A woman's fertility peaks in the early 20s, drops by half after age 28 and continues rapidly plummeting every year after. A popular lie spread by feminists is that we can hold off having kids because, thanks to IVF, fertility drugs, or even egg freezing, we can get pregnant whenever we want. The actual success rate of these methods is startlingly low.

Also, the pool of good, eligible bachelors decreases with each decade, leaving only the swamp of ne'er-do-wells, confirmed bachelors, and jaded divorcees.

That's not to say you can't get pregnant after 35 or you won't find a husband later on. Just be aware that those are exceptions and the longer you put it off the less likely it is to happen and/or there probably will be more heartache involved.

I would highly recommend the book Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals how Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student. It's not a Christian book, but it does an excellent job of stripping away the lies and half-truths we've been force fed by the politically correct groups for 40 years.

[4given_follower]

It was not my intention to bash moms. My mom stayed home with my brother and I, and I DO NOT THINK it is a "waste of time" or whatever you took my meaning to be.

As an FYI - Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome = story of my life. It's already going to be tricky for me to have children, and at the moment I refuse to go on birth control to "jump-start" my system because I don't want to be on hormones like that.

If you think that I am too selfish to want children and "invest [my] time and gifts" into them...pardon me. It's a phase of life that I'm looking forward to, but I'm not sure how possible that is outside of God.

Plus, there is no way on earth I want to get married right now. There are limitations that come along with marriage, and I'm not just talking personal limitations. I believe it was you who quoted Paul, and I won't go further into this. I have faith enough in God that out of that pool of dwindling good, eligible bachelors that He'll bring this good, eligible baccalaureate together with him at the right time.

In talking to God about my plans for my life, I'm pretty sure I've gotten a go-ahead on my pursuits. He's big enough to deal with each of His daughters in a personal way...or at least I think so.

So, thanks for the concern. Not trying to be rude, but now I've shown you the full hand of cards and not just the conclusions I've made from looking at them myself.

[junkeyfish1]

Yep, twas me who quoted Paul and I haven't forgotten it. Perhaps I was relying too much on you getting my deleted comment by email? I did reiterate his statement in that one.

Since I didn't know you have PCOS, I just wanted you to have the facts. I didn't try and sugarcoat it, because I've read and heard so many accounts, both first and second hand, of women (mostly the career-driven, ME oriented kind) who suddenly woke up in their 40s and 50s and realized that Prince Charming isn't coming to sweep them off their feet. I'm not saying that is you, but I just wanted to give it to you straight; if you've dedicated your life to God, He will take care of you in His perfect way.

I care about you, Sarah and I don't want to see you harmed by the feminist lies so prevalent in today's society.

[junkeyfish1]

I suppose that didn't come out quite as well as I wanted it to, either. *le sigh*

I don't think you're blindly following the feminist model.

I just care about you and don't want to see you hurt.

[4given_follower]

I appreciate the concern, but have a little bit of confidence in my ability to reason through these things.

[jvalliere]

Perhaps I'm not fully understanding but I'm not sure why people can have such negative views on feminist. Your taking a small and loud majority of what you portray as "feminist" and basing your view off of that.

You can still be a feminist while you have children and you can still be a feminist even you choose to stay home with your children. The whole point of being a feminist is being able to have the choice. Thats why a feminist goal is. It is to make sure that every woman gets to have the same choices that every man in this world makes.

As a child of woman who waited until she was 30 to have me, I strongly disagree with your somewhat fantasy facts about women who want to wait later on in life and new feritilty drugs. I'm a clear and perfect example of how feritilty drugs truly can work. Without them I would not be alive. As for the success rates of such practices I really would like to know where you get information about such things. The truth is that their success rates are extremely high and are still climbing. It is very much pratical and a reality in today's society for a woman to be able to get pregnent later on in her life.

I'm confused as to another thing. First though, I just want to say that please don't think I'm attacking you personally because I honestly am not. Anyways, I'm confunsed why being pregnent has to be the main goal for a woman, why does finding a husband and having his children have to be her only goal in life? This is what gets us "feminist" upset(yes men can be feminist as well" If thats what a woman wants to do then thats great! More power to her! However, if a woman wants to wait later and just focus on something else for awhile then she should have that choice.

I don't believe that a woman should have to just hurry up and marry the first man she sees just to start having kids. I think thats a dangerous view and promotes the wrong message. Women are far more than just Wives, and Mothers.

Well lol I've rambled on enough. Sarah I think that its great that your thinking about this and just remember, follow the road you want to travel:)
-Jamie

p.s Thanks for your comment on my lj. Means alot. :)

[4given_follower]

Welcome! I kind of sort of love ya, so you know. :)