i'm not saying that you're right or wrong, but i think divorce has less to do with age and more to do with reality-check. people get married, and they're all like.... oooh! we're so in love. we will be together forever because we're soulmates!
and then five years later after people take on some kids and a mortgage payment, the novelty of the relationship dissipates, and you're being slapped with bills left and right, there's less sex and more work, and the quality of life goes plummeting.
that's when people get on each other's nerves, because they really aren't happy anymore, and the relationship doesn't have the same kind of charm it did when it began. then everyone gives up and files for divorce.
however, i can't say that divorce is bad. i mean i'm sure it's a sucky thing to go through, but my parents got divorced and i turned out alright. i guess it just depends on what your situation is.
i think if you go diving in expecting everything to be easy just because you're in love with someone, you're bound for trouble. but you if you sort of accept the idea that there is no such thing as a "perfect marriage" and decide you're not going to quit on your spouse just because things are momentarily crappy, chances are you'll be together til you're old and gray. of course, this requires a lot of effort by both people.
anyhow that's my two cents on the process of marital demise. what a complicated subject!
believe me we've had our share of problems. and weve gotten through them. we know what were in for. both of our parents are divorced, we know that life is never easy. we know that the things weve gone through before marrige arent the last things we'll go through either. but thanks for your 2 cents.
and then five years later after people take on some kids and a mortgage payment, the novelty of the relationship dissipates, and you're being slapped with bills left and right, there's less sex and more work, and the quality of life goes plummeting.
that's when people get on each other's nerves, because they really aren't happy anymore, and the relationship doesn't have the same kind of charm it did when it began. then everyone gives up and files for divorce.
however, i can't say that divorce is bad. i mean i'm sure it's a sucky thing to go through, but my parents got divorced and i turned out alright. i guess it just depends on what your situation is.
i think if you go diving in expecting everything to be easy just because you're in love with someone, you're bound for trouble. but you if you sort of accept the idea that there is no such thing as a "perfect marriage" and decide you're not going to quit on your spouse just because things are momentarily crappy, chances are you'll be together til you're old and gray. of course, this requires a lot of effort by both people.
anyhow that's my two cents on the process of marital demise. what a complicated subject!
p.s. i would <3 to come to your wedding. :D
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believe me we've had our share of problems. and weve gotten through them. we know what were in for. both of our parents are divorced, we know that life is never easy. we know that the things weve gone through before marrige arent the last things we'll go through either. but thanks for your 2 cents.
>heather
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