I can't even comprehend the logic (or lack thereof)
My sister got a boyfriend. There's nothing bad about that, she's twenty three, well past being an adult. But here's the thing, my mother is disappointed in her. Why?
So, my sister (here on refered to as Mae) is in med school. She's going to be a doctor in just over two years. She hasn't had a boyfriend for a few years, getting into med is hard work after all. So why is mother of ours so disappointed? Is this boyfriend abusive? Is he into partying and drinking and other activities worthy of disapproval?
Not at all.
Out mother is disappointed because Mae's boyfriend is not a Christian. She hasn't even met him and she has already decided that he can't possibly be a good person. No benefit of the doubt or anything, he's simply not good enough.
I don't understand her logic. I'm not a Christian and I'm her daughter. Granted, I know that in her eyes I'm the greatest disappointment since The Great Disappointment but she can live with it. My dad isn't a Christian and she married him. So why does she not want Mae to date this apparent heathen? I don't understand. I really don't. Did I mention that he's in med school too? I know that that's no proof that he is a good person, but surely our mother can trust Mae's judgement of character.
Our mother even told Mae that she was disappointed in her. No-one wants that, and I just feel bad for Mae because she didn't do anything wrong. She hasn't been knocked up by a random guy. She barely drinks. She doesn't do drugs. In fact, as far as I can see, she is the one that our mother should be most PROUD of. She's going to be a doctor, she's going to spend most of her life helping people. So just because she chooses to date someone that isn't a Christian doesn't mean that she deserves to be made to feel like she's let someone down because she hasn't. She really hasn't.
Another thing that bothers me about this is that my opinion does not matter. Anything that I say will no influence what our mother thinks because I'm am not a Christian, therefore what I think can not possibly be correct or must be said with sinister intentions.
I don't like this.
So, my sister (here on refered to as Mae) is in med school. She's going to be a doctor in just over two years. She hasn't had a boyfriend for a few years, getting into med is hard work after all. So why is mother of ours so disappointed? Is this boyfriend abusive? Is he into partying and drinking and other activities worthy of disapproval?
Not at all.
Out mother is disappointed because Mae's boyfriend is not a Christian. She hasn't even met him and she has already decided that he can't possibly be a good person. No benefit of the doubt or anything, he's simply not good enough.
I don't understand her logic. I'm not a Christian and I'm her daughter. Granted, I know that in her eyes I'm the greatest disappointment since The Great Disappointment but she can live with it. My dad isn't a Christian and she married him. So why does she not want Mae to date this apparent heathen? I don't understand. I really don't. Did I mention that he's in med school too? I know that that's no proof that he is a good person, but surely our mother can trust Mae's judgement of character.
Our mother even told Mae that she was disappointed in her. No-one wants that, and I just feel bad for Mae because she didn't do anything wrong. She hasn't been knocked up by a random guy. She barely drinks. She doesn't do drugs. In fact, as far as I can see, she is the one that our mother should be most PROUD of. She's going to be a doctor, she's going to spend most of her life helping people. So just because she chooses to date someone that isn't a Christian doesn't mean that she deserves to be made to feel like she's let someone down because she hasn't. She really hasn't.
Another thing that bothers me about this is that my opinion does not matter. Anything that I say will no influence what our mother thinks because I'm am not a Christian, therefore what I think can not possibly be correct or must be said with sinister intentions.
I don't like this.