resilience
"i grew up with a view of myself as resilient. but i believed i was strong IN SPITE of my family's deficiencies and the adversities we suffered; it was only in later years that i came to realize that my strengths emerged BECAUSE of those experieinces. as researchers have discovered, resilience is forged THROUGH adversity, not despite it. life crises and hardship can bring out the best in us as we rise to meet the challengees. as albert camus wrote, 'in the midst of winter i finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.'" - froma walsh, from strengthening family resilience