fabulous fabulous weekend!

[2eclipse]

last night i dreamed i was exorcising fire demons!
they wanted to go into a tractor, but i wouldn't let them. too dangerous.

also i have officially begun the process of migrating over to dreamwidth. i am 2eclipse over there as well. what's amazing is that they allow you to import all your lj-settings (though it does take a while). so i hope to figure out

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[sunmother]

Sigh....she sounds way high maintenance. That "you are either with me on my terms (which you must often guess or mind-read) or you are against me" sounds very familiar and deep...and in need of MH intervention.

Re: c

[2eclipse]

mh?
she didn't use to be this crazy. she wasn't treating me this way or expecting such unreasonable things when i befriended her.

[frog_lady]

Would you let me know if/when you have an extra dreamwidth code?

[2eclipse]

sure thing. when i get one, it's yours. :)

[votishal]

Sounds like flailing, desperate attempts to guilt-trip you into staying close to her, as if she senses that something's not the way it was and can't actually, y'know, TALK about it with you.

I've had situations where a friend/former SO was so convinced that I would eventually drift away like all her other old friends had. She started to complain about anything that happened was confirmation of her suspicions that I was trying to ditch her. Well, it was a self-fulfilling prophecy; if you can't talk about anything else, that I should go off and have fun with other friends that I like a LOT more than you, eventually I start to think "Yeah...maybe you're right."

- V -

[2eclipse]

you might be right about that.
it just DIGS at me that she is being so unfair.
i don't even call ROSS back unless he leaves me a message and she expects me to magically "know" she is having problems when she hasn't said so?
grrrr.
i just need to keep asking myself why i am making this my problem enough that i care.

[tyratae]

i'm thinking the last 2 sentences of your post might be exactly what she needs to be told.

you care about her, you've made that perfectly clear, and you're not putting up with her trying to catch you neglecting her so as to prove you don't. if she really wants to talk, she'll call back or leave a message. if she doesn't want to talk, then what's the drama for in the first place?

[2eclipse]

ugh.
yeah. exactly what you said.

i invited her (nicely) to the knitting night at my place tonight (group activity that she has been a part of, so safe). and also told her that i don't even call ross back unless he leaves a message - that this isn't about her.
she responded with, "well obviously."
and isn't coming tonight. and i can't help but feel just FINE with that.