Friends and Thearapists (The Oscar of Colin Firth)
Fejeő's latest project is to watch all Oscar-nominated movies before the ceremony. Thus he decided we should watch The King's Speech in the cinemas. By we I, of course mean, the usual bunch, not just Fejeő and me. As everyone else was busy in the end we did mean the two of us.
It was happy about it for two reasons:
One, because my therapist (wow, I never realised I couldn't spell therapist without rapist, huh) always bugs me about that I only do important things with girls, so this could have served as counter-evidence. It didn't, 'cause yesterday she didn't ask me about what had I done during the week, instead she insisted on talking about my ex and well... Évi. She was kind of implying that I have attachment issues, and this is the reason why I keep my distance from Alex. I don't agree with her. I agree on my attachment issues, but I would argue that I simply don't like Alex much.
In any case, the second reason was that Fejeő is my Best Friend™, it was good talking with him. It's not like I had anything going on I wanted to talk over with him (and for that I have a psychologist anyway), but it was just for conversations sake. We shared some stories on University life and basically only that. I like stories.
I also liked The King's Speech, I found Colin Firth acting masterful. There were some really awkward scenes, when you couldn't help but feel sorry for the poor guy who couldn't express himself. It was obviously was a little overdone for the effect, nevertheless this hadn't made those scenes any less impactful.
The other thing about the movie which was done really well was the depiction of the friendship between the prince and the 'doctor'. It felt so genuine, that I was truly emotionally invested in it, even if it was clear from the get-go that it will be a happy ending. Though I still have to wonder, what happened during the war? Had the Britians won? I'm hoping for a sequel which answers this questions...
The other thing that stood out for me was the scenes with the therapy. I was a little annoyed when the Prince was reluctant to answer the questions, gave evasive answers or was unwilling to recognise the connections, but only because I do the same thing. I and persumably he, too, know that it only hinders the therapy, but I was emphatising with him. After all, it's hard to admit that you're damaged from childhood experiences, it makes you feel weak and helpless.
So, the task of a therapist is to trick you, as the 'doctor' did it in the movie. I liked his tricks, because I usually figured out the purpose behind them. I frequently realise the aims of the tricks in my own therapy midway through and at those times I'm a little bit annoyed as I blindly walked into a trap and I have to admit something that I otherwise wouldn't. I understand that this is essential in helping to recognise my faults, nonetheless it's still irritating a little bit. However only when it's happening to me... when it happens to someone else, it's hilarious!
As for Fejeő, he liked the movie, too. Afterwards, he commented on that it was weird tha we hadn't found out why the Prince was stuttering. I guess this is the difference between him and me. He had a happy childhood, so he doesn't necessarily comprehend how an unhappy one can affect a person. Me on the other hand... I generally can't grasp how mother-son relationship work. Or how one should love thy mother.
Fejeő only needs to visit movie analysis site (or he doesn't even, I explained him) and I only have to go to a therapist.
Everyone has their shortcomings, I guess.
It was happy about it for two reasons:
One, because my therapist (wow, I never realised I couldn't spell therapist without rapist, huh) always bugs me about that I only do important things with girls, so this could have served as counter-evidence. It didn't, 'cause yesterday she didn't ask me about what had I done during the week, instead she insisted on talking about my ex and well... Évi. She was kind of implying that I have attachment issues, and this is the reason why I keep my distance from Alex. I don't agree with her. I agree on my attachment issues, but I would argue that I simply don't like Alex much.
In any case, the second reason was that Fejeő is my Best Friend™, it was good talking with him. It's not like I had anything going on I wanted to talk over with him (and for that I have a psychologist anyway), but it was just for conversations sake. We shared some stories on University life and basically only that. I like stories.
I also liked The King's Speech, I found Colin Firth acting masterful. There were some really awkward scenes, when you couldn't help but feel sorry for the poor guy who couldn't express himself. It was obviously was a little overdone for the effect, nevertheless this hadn't made those scenes any less impactful.
The other thing about the movie which was done really well was the depiction of the friendship between the prince and the 'doctor'. It felt so genuine, that I was truly emotionally invested in it, even if it was clear from the get-go that it will be a happy ending. Though I still have to wonder, what happened during the war? Had the Britians won? I'm hoping for a sequel which answers this questions...
The other thing that stood out for me was the scenes with the therapy. I was a little annoyed when the Prince was reluctant to answer the questions, gave evasive answers or was unwilling to recognise the connections, but only because I do the same thing. I and persumably he, too, know that it only hinders the therapy, but I was emphatising with him. After all, it's hard to admit that you're damaged from childhood experiences, it makes you feel weak and helpless.
So, the task of a therapist is to trick you, as the 'doctor' did it in the movie. I liked his tricks, because I usually figured out the purpose behind them. I frequently realise the aims of the tricks in my own therapy midway through and at those times I'm a little bit annoyed as I blindly walked into a trap and I have to admit something that I otherwise wouldn't. I understand that this is essential in helping to recognise my faults, nonetheless it's still irritating a little bit. However only when it's happening to me... when it happens to someone else, it's hilarious!
As for Fejeő, he liked the movie, too. Afterwards, he commented on that it was weird tha we hadn't found out why the Prince was stuttering. I guess this is the difference between him and me. He had a happy childhood, so he doesn't necessarily comprehend how an unhappy one can affect a person. Me on the other hand... I generally can't grasp how mother-son relationship work. Or how one should love thy mother.
Fejeő only needs to visit movie analysis site (or he doesn't even, I explained him) and I only have to go to a therapist.
Everyone has their shortcomings, I guess.