Re: just curiousdrunkittySeptember 19 2004, 10:58:07 UTC
agreed. If you don't like blondes and aren't likely to call then why not just don't take the number instead of taking it then making up excuses for why you tore it up?
Re: just curious1whiterabbitSeptember 19 2004, 11:22:40 UTC
It is rude and somewhat ego damaging to say "no thank-you" when someone gives you their phone number.
I should have pointed out that she was very blonde and that really doesn't do it for me (and not that she was into repeated spankings which isn't all that bad actually.)
Re: just curious1whiterabbitSeptember 19 2004, 13:22:29 UTC
I highly doubt that she is just sitting around waiting for me to call.
I would rather be polite to the woman and act nodiscripte towards her than either lead her on, or turn her away. She can feel good about having placed her self out into the open and not have her ego damaged by my blatent rejection. Also, she will be able to justify my not calling by telling herself something like "Maybe he lost the note" or such. I try and make it a habit NOT to be rude to people initally until given very good reason to be.
How many guys have you given your number to and not received a phone call from? What do you tell yourself?
Re: just curious__batgirl__September 19 2004, 13:44:59 UTC
How many guys have you given your number to and not received a phone call from?
Never had it happen.
On a more general level, the reason I tend to be curious about what people are thinking when they make decisions like that is because I have always believed that being upfront was ultimately more respectful and less confusing. Some men are very appreciative of that bluntness, others seem to feel (as you appear to) that its rude and insensitive and that I should leave room for doubt.
In short, I really am not trying to pick on you - the subject overall is of interest to me. If you doubt that, please note I recently addressed the subject of women leading guys on vs being blunt, at length, and prior to any contact with you. http://www.livejournal.com/users/__batgirl__/38342.html
truly just philosophical curiousity, no criticism is meant at all!
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I should have pointed out that she was very blonde and that really doesn't do it for me (and not that she was into repeated spankings which isn't all that bad actually.)
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I personally figure it has got to be more ego-damaging to let them sit around hoping/expecting/wondering just to eventually feel stupid.
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I would rather be polite to the woman and act nodiscripte towards her than either lead her on, or turn her away.
She can feel good about having placed her self out into the open and not have her ego damaged by my blatent rejection. Also, she will be able to justify my not calling by telling herself something like "Maybe he lost the note" or such.
I try and make it a habit NOT to be rude to people initally until given very good reason to be.
How many guys have you given your number to and not received a phone call from? What do you tell yourself?
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Never had it happen.
On a more general level, the reason I tend to be curious about what people are thinking when they make decisions like that is because I have always believed that being upfront was ultimately more respectful and less confusing. Some men are very appreciative of that bluntness, others seem to feel (as you appear to) that its rude and insensitive and that I should leave room for doubt.
In short, I really am not trying to pick on you - the subject overall is of interest to me. If you doubt that, please note I recently addressed the subject of women leading guys on vs being blunt, at length, and prior to any contact with you. http://www.livejournal.com/users/__batgirl__/38342.html
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Interesting commentary.
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