Romantically Challenged

[1trinagirl]

So, I guess I have a sort of "little club".  I have several friends (both men and women) that are out in the dating scene along with me..................and we are just confused.  I mean it is tough to understand this whole dating/relationship phenomenon.  You get out there in the mix and you find that there are some great people.........and some

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[anonymous]

It’s funny because not too long ago I was pondering about a similar dilemma to the one you and E discussed. The fact is we spend our entire lives searching for the acceptance and love of someone else. Ultimately, it’s as though we are searching for ourselves in the other person’s feelings. No matter how deep our feelings are for someone they will always fail us in some way; the same way we will fail them since human beings are not perfect. As an alternative to this, I’ve developed a kind of infatuation for myself. It may sound arrogant and selfish at first, but when you do this you learn a great deal about yourself and have much potential to offer others. Realistically this doesn’t last a lifetime. I’m just temporarily avoiding the problem. What I do know is that E hit it right on the money when he said that it’s so easy to fall in love, but falling out is the hard part. We’re all scared of the pain of falling out of love, that sometimes we avoid falling into it. I came across a quote by Einstein that has helped me understand things a little better…

“A human being is part of a whole, called by us the "Universe," a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separate from the rest--a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of understanding and compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty" ~Albert Einstein

I love that quote. Oh can I also be a member of this club? Better yet, can I be the vice president or the treasurer? Your pal, -Mike http://www.myspace.com/12919197

DANG!

[1trinagirl]

Geez guy! With a profoundly insightful comment like that.......you can be the club's official "intelligence" and "advisory committee"!!!!
Great comment.........and you know......so true. I have a BAD habit of throwing myself into someone.....and ignoring my own wishes and desires. To be a bit "selfish" can be healthy for someone who is a CONSTANT giver. And, it is definitely something in which I should be VERY aware.

Thanks for the new thought process and new approach to contemplate!! Have a great weekend!!!

Re: DANG!

[anonymous]

Trina, the right partner will honor you and your “bad” habit. He’ll make it a point to know your wishes and desires and do his best to fulfill them, because it gives him pleasure to make you happy.

My admittedly idealistic thought for the day. ;-)

Nick
Nick8004@aol.com